My mom doesn't approve of me getting married to my fiancé
This has become a pretty big problem over the last few months. I have been engaged for a year already and I was planning to have the wedding mid year. However plans have all changed as my mom told my fiance that she will never come to our wedding and that she will never speak to him again ( and she hasnt)
it all started when my family came to visit over the holidays. To give you a bit of background my fiance has had issues with her in the past, for example we resently purchased our first home and she was very unsuppportive and told us that we were wrong and it was a terrible idea. This hurt him deeply as it is very difficult to finance your first home these days and we are still only in our 20s. She told him that he is taking me away ( 2 hours from her) and that she wont have time to come see me. Anyway we have moved and now she thinks the place is great ( Because its by the beach) and wants to come over for 'holidays' all the time.
She come over with the rest of the family durning the hoildays, and it didnt turn out well. She is very overbearing and tends to take over when she is around. Plus she invited my brothers girlfriends without even asking us first and their two dogs. We only have one spare room, so people were sleeping on the floor in the TV room as well. It was crazy to say the least, there were wet clothes all over the place, towels from the beach everywhere and the kitchen was always messy because everyone just helped themselves to food and didnt tidy up.
My fiance had enough on the last day and was acting a bit childis, I guess he just didnt want to deal with it anymore and ignored my whole family. I feel that was the wrong this to do , he should have been a but more mature and not ingnored people. He just stayed in our room until they left.
So long story short him and my mom ended up having a huge fight screaming and insulting each other. My mom called him low class and said she never she will never come to our wedding and that he is terrible to me and doesnt treat me well ( which is not true) and he told her that she shouldnt come back to our home because she never supported our move in the first place.
So they are not speaking to each other and im in the middle of it. My mom is saying horrible things about him and he is saying terrible things about my mom.
I love them both and its so difficult to defend both of them or take a side. They both did something wrong and neither want to say sorry.
Wedding plans are now off because my mom does not support my wedding, she has told me she hopes I dont marry him and that she will never see him again.
This is a really difficult situation I am in, its not a nice place to be. My fiance has his problems but he has always just loved and cared for me but its so difficult now because my mom will not support our marriage.
Just to make you see how serious it is....its my brothers birthday today and ive been told that I can come to his birthday party if I want but my fiance cant, he has to stay at home...how does she expect that I will leave him at home !
And because ive said that she says ive choosen him over my brother.....