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The 10 Most Important Commandments of Every Marriage

Posted by Sasha Brown-Worsham on February 6, 2013 

marriage commandmentsSometimes it seems like we are just winging this whole marriage thing one hour at a time. After being married 10 years, I can officially say that many of the things people told me in the beginning -- don't go to bed angry, always kiss goodbye -- haven't been the "rules" that sustain us.

In fact, the things that have helped my marriage last are sometimes things they tell you NOT to do -- junk food binges, sex when you don't feel like it, and screaming at one another. They've actually helped a marriage make it over the humps.

Sometimes it seems like the rules of the game are things you learn as you go. And it makes sense, right? We are all individuals and we marry individuals and no two marriages are the same. Still, there are SOME absolutes, so with no further ado, I give you the 10 commandments of marriage. Read them and LEARN:

  1. Thou shalt not cheat: Dang! Start with an easy one, but seriously. This is so obvious. And yes, this includes sexting and Facebooking old girlfriends. It includes anything your spouse (not you) would consider a betrayal.
  2. Thou shalt get medicine in the middle of the night: If your hubby is sick, get your butt out of bed and get him his meds. It's a small thing, and yes, he could do it himself, but wouldn't you want him to do it for you?
  3. Thou shalt forgo sex once in a while: It's not a written contract that you get sex whenever you want now. Respect your partner's right to body autonomy.
  4. Thou shalt yell and scream when angry: Good couples fight. I don't care what anyone else says. If you are getting it out, you are doing well.
  5. Thou shalt compliment: Look at your husband's butt after his shower. Still think it looks good? Tell him!
  6. Thou shalt date each other: You were together long before you had kids and you will be together long after (God willing), so go out ALONE once in a while!
  7. Thou shalt flirt: Don't lose that sexy banter and that flirtatious way that got you together in the first place.
  8. Thou shalt laugh: Don't take it all so seriously. Laugh. Crack each other up. Tell jokes and be silly. Don't forget it.
  9. Thou shalt rub feet and scratch backs: This should be written into the vows, people. Biggest perks of marriage right HERE!
  10. Thou shalt cuddle sometimes without sex: Sometimes you forget you can just hold one another without having to go all the way. Still do that once in a while, too.

What are your marriage commandments?

by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 3:17 PM
Replies (11-19):
sandra1023
by on Feb. 6, 2013 at 8:46 PM


I think it means that if you are doing something you think is ok, but your spouse doesn't, you shouldn't do it out of respect for him/her.  For example, if you think flirting (or just oral, or making out when drunk etc.) isn't cheating, but your spouse thinks it is, then don't do it.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

It includes anything your spouse (not you) would consider a betrayal.

I don't get that.



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Armywifeholcomb
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:01 AM
9 is my biggest problem! Not the back scratching, the FEET!
I will rub lotion on them only after a shower and if he's driving me nuts scratching them! He hates lotion so it Has to be bad to get to that point. And although a good foot rub would be nice, I hate my feet being touched... And he doesn't like feet either so we are good without that!
Everything else is good tho!
We need a date night...
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cali_angel_girl
by Amy :) on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:06 AM

Thou shalt never lie

Thou shalt never cheat

lovemynevaeh
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:27 AM
Be honest ALWAYS! date nights a must! respect! and never cheat! we both know it takes both of us to make a marriage work!
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CameronsMommy23
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:40 AM
Communicate your wants, need, concerns, etc or they can't be addressed!! My husband is very bad at keeping things to himself.
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Gooberzilla
by Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:55 AM

Thou shalt remember to love even the "imperfections" and "flaws" that make your partner the wonderful, unique person s/he is.

SlightlyPerfect
by Slightly Perfect on Feb. 7, 2013 at 9:55 AM

Oh! I see now! It includes anything your spouse would consider a betrayal. Got it. Thanks for the clarification.

Quoting sandra1023:


I think it means that if you are doing something you think is ok, but your spouse doesn't, you shouldn't do it out of respect for him/her.  For example, if you think flirting (or just oral, or making out when drunk etc.) isn't cheating, but your spouse thinks it is, then don't do it.

Quoting SlightlyPerfect:

It includes anything your spouse (not you) would consider a betrayal.

I don't get that.




slightlyperfect

MrsShipley21
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:08 AM

I do all this for my man ^_^ Awwww I am such a good wife hahaha

mrspena
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 11:18 AM
Haha after 13 years we still lock the bathroom door. Unless taking a shower, than its ok to come in.


Quoting BKozICan:

Thou shalt not cheat. Thou shalt not post about relationship problems on Facebook. Thou shalt not enter the bathroom while the other is going. Thou shalt not mess up the bill system. 


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