I've done all I can do...its over

[IMaBABYsMaMa]

I have forgiven and stood by my dh thru more than most would. He's been abusive alcoholic who tried to commit suicide when I went to leave. Rehab didn't help for long. He's falling off the wagon time and time again. He's a mean vicious drunk. I even stood by him thru emailing sex ads on Craigslist. We have been in counseling but has informed me we don't need to go anymore. That's b.s. we have had 6 sessions. I'm ready to be happy again.

[alaskadreams]

Oh sweetie I'm sorry!  That has got to be so hard, my heart goes out to you. 

[IMaBABYsMaMa]

Thank you, I've been sad for so long. I think I may stay in counseling solo.

Quoting alaskadreams:

Oh sweetie I'm sorry!  That has got to be so hard, my heart goes out to you. 

[alaskadreams]

That's good.  Also read the book Women who love too much, I think it might give you a great way to look at things

Quoting IMaBABYsMaMa:

Thank you, I've been sad for so long. I think I may stay in counseling solo.

Quoting alaskadreams:

Oh sweetie I'm sorry!  That has got to be so hard, my heart goes out to you. 

[TommyAbby]

Good for you for sticking up for yourself!! You are right, you deserve to be happy. 

[jett286]

That's got to be hard!  So sorry, I hope you find happiness sooner rather than later.  It sounds like you've done everything possible and then some.  Sometimes NOTHING is every enough...and you have to take care of you.

[IMaBABYsMaMa]

I will, thank you for the advice.

Quoting alaskadreams:

That's good.  Also read the book Women who love too much, I think it might give you a great way to look at things

Quoting IMaBABYsMaMa:

Thank you, I've been sad for so long. I think I may stay in counseling solo.

Quoting alaskadreams:

Oh sweetie I'm sorry!  That has got to be so hard, my heart goes out to you. 

[AnGLInterrupted]

Sometimes the best thing you can do, is to stop chasing after the things that hurt you and do "you" for awhile.  Sounds like you've done everything you can.  (hugs)

[Lindalou907]

Good for you for making the effort, since he's abusive be careful how you leave him, he doesn't have a gun does he? Do you have children together? Have you seen a lawyer to get advice? Usually the first consult is free.

[IMaBABYsMaMa]

I know he doesn't have a handgun but possibly a shotgun. He has agreed to us parting for the time being. I don't think he believes its a reality cause I've always stuck by him. I have not seen an attorney. This all happened last night. We have a dd6 together.

Quoting Lindalou907:

Good for you for making the effort, since he's abusive be careful how you leave him, he doesn't have a gun does he? Do you have children together? Have you seen a lawyer to get advice? Usually the first consult is free.

[ashleigh24]

Hugs!!!!! I'm so sorry :-( I wasn't in any kind of bad relationship like this but I am so with you on being happy again. I've been in a loveless marriage for the past at least 2 years!! I will be divorced legally march 15th and I'm soooo ready!!!! I am getting on my feet and on a really good note I'm losing weight and gaining some wonderful self esteem that I have never had before :-) I have always been a weak woman that depends on a man and I'm changing that! My soon to be ex is helping me by allowing me to stay in our home until I can find something else and in grateful but I'm so ready to be on my own feet. I know I can't rush it though. I guess I'm saying all this because even with all this scary (not knowing where ill be next year) I am VERY happy!!!!!!!! Happiest I have been in a very long time!! I'm telling my family this weekend and I'm nervous but so ready to stop hiding it!!!