Ladies who are now 25 and older... Please be truthful… ****UPDATE****
I wanted to get some replies in before I said why I was asking.
I'm asking because at age 19 I was in college and found out I was going to be a mommy. I cried for 5 hours none stop because I was not ready. I got over it and started to except the fact that whether I liked it or not I was going to be a mom. I have up everything, smoking, drinking, party's, bars, even friends who all they did was party. A month in a half after I turned 20 I had my very amazing beautiful baby girl (who is now 5). I left my SO 6mons after DD was born because he was an abusive drunk. On my 21st birthday I did not go out and party I stayed home and went to bed early with my DD no birthday party of any kind. About 6mons later I meet this girl who was 19 and had a 3wk old baby boy. She came to stay with my but hen one day she met came back and I was raising her son. I took him in as my own loved him, fed him, all that good jazz a good mother would do. When he was 15mons he passed from a nasty illness. At age 22 I was grieving over his lose and that's when I met my DH. He pulled me out if the dark place I was in. Help me come back and remember who I was. After only knowing him for 3 mons he brings his son to home with him and the next day he leaves for work for 3 weeks (his son was 5 at the time my DD was 2) I took this little boy in as my own have him everything I had to offer a child as if he were mine. A couple mons later I found out I was preg and a couple weeks after that DH went to jail for 6 mons. I had to send his son back to his aunt, move back to where I was from and go through a high risk pregnancy alone. 3 mons after I turned 23 I had our DD. About 4 mons later his son comes back to live with us and yet again not knowing this little boy I'm left alone with him for weeks so DH can work. But like a good mother would I just jumped in and became mom. I went through many more struggles before today. I'm 25 now and living very happy married and we are expecting baby #2 together.
I was called immature, naive, irresponsible (because I had my first baby at 20) gullible stupid and the best part about it is I don't do shit. I stay home with my kids, I have NO friends I don't drink, go to bars, go to parties do drugs NOTHING. If I can't take my kids I don't go. And yet people still think they can judge me. At my age they were fucking up left and right, had no kids not a worry in the world and fucking anything they could. NOT ME I was a good girl and took care of my kids did what I had to to be a good mom. But for some reason they think they can judge me??? They don't even know me. NO ONE DOSE. Not even my own DH knows me like he thinks he does. I don't judge people everyone did what they did but to do all that shit then talk shit about how I grew up first fuck you is all I have to say. Sorry it was long got kinda pissed lol