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Do you hate those who disagree with your lifestyle?

Posted by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 12:46 PM
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I was reading a post last night- didn't answer it because I wanted to think about it. Couldn't find it this morning, but it was about someone angered bc a lttle girl told their daughter she couldn 't come over to play bc her mom was gay.


The responses to the post were in favor of allowing their children to play at a home where the parents were gay.


I wanted to think about this, because the answering posts were full of hatred and personal attacks on those who wouldn't, which seemed a tad hypocritical to me.

The real issue is, if someone has a lifestyle that you disagree with and would not want their child to be influenced toward that lifestyle-should they let them play at that house.? the answer is no- of course not. So why would that be any different for those who do not believe that the gay lifestyle is healthy and do not want their child coming inot contact with it on a regualr basis?


If I knew the people, and I knew they respected my objections to that, then and only then would I allow my child over to play. Same thing with booze in the house- same thing with cigarrette smoking, same thing with porn. And I really would not allow my daughter over with two gay men, just cause I do not trust men in particular with thier horny thoughts.


If you knew your kid's friend's mom was a Bible thumpin evangelical and you did not want your child proselitized, would you allow them to play at their house- most likely not.


So lets not be hating those that just have a problem with your chosen lifestyle and the way they want to insulate their children. Do not call them haters of you- they just don't want your life style shoved down their throats and their values destroyed in thier kids' eyes. YOu would be the same way if you thought they would disparage you to your children because of your lifestyle.When it comes to raising our children, lets just allow us to have our freedoms.




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shadow_lark
by Silver Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:02 PM
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Sorry...I quit reading at gay men with their horny thoughts.
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arthistmom
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:03 PM

Gay lifestyle?

GELiz
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:21 PM

No not gay men- all men. I would go over with just men. period. but thats just me.


Quoting shadow_lark:

Sorry...I quit reading at gay men with their horny thoughts.



AlekD
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:34 PM

I don't hate anyone but I don't think everyone is "right" either.

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shadow_lark
by Silver Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:38 PM
OK sorry, I quit reading after you stated you don't trust men and their horny thoughts. Sorry, kind of invalidates any points you make have been trying to make in my eyes

Quoting GELiz:

No not gay men- all men. I would go over with just men. period. but thats just me.



Quoting shadow_lark:

Sorry...I quit reading at gay men with their horny thoughts.




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Kaybean
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:39 PM
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I don't believe in hating anyone.
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CrazyLife1996
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 1:45 PM
Hatred gets you no where. The only time I don't allow my children to go to someone's house is for a couple things.

If the parents are drug users.

If I don't get a comfortable vibe from the parents.

If the other child is participating in things I don't want my children involved with.
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jmlmomma
by Bronze Member on Feb. 7, 2013 at 2:05 PM

interesting... I understand what your trying to say. I don't hate people who do drugs, smoke cigarettes, cuss like a sailor, ...but as I was raising my daughter I would consider all differences before allowing her to go play over at some one's house and if they did any of the mentioned things above then she would not hang out there.

Due to me being abused as a child by more then one man, I totally get what your saying about men....This I struggled with..I never allowed my daughter to hang out at a home with a women there to watch/baby sit her.

now as far as being gay (females..see above fears of men)..... I've never been put in the position to make that call....I would hope that I would not stop my daughter from having a friend because their parents are gay... but I really don't know..and now my daughter is 24 so....I never will know.

AleaKat
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 2:08 PM
I'm not gonna let my kid go play in the crack house down the street em even though the kids get along but gay???
I have no problem letting my child play in a house where the parents are gay.
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GELiz
by on Feb. 7, 2013 at 2:11 PM

Right, you do get what I am trying to say. Its a matter of trust. If they are people you know and trust, then sure, no problem. otherwise not taking any risks with my kids just to be PC.


Quoting jmlmomma:

interesting... I understand what your trying to say. I don't hate people who do drugs, smoke cigarettes, cuss like a sailor, ...but as I was raising my daughter I would consider all differences before allowing her to go play over at some one's house and if they did any of the mentioned things above then she would not hang out there.

Due to me being abused as a child by more then one man, I totally get what your saying about men....This I struggled with..I never allowed my daughter to hang out at a home with a women there to watch/baby sit her.

now as far as being gay (females..see above fears of men)..... I've never been put in the position to make that call....I would hope that I would not stop my daughter from having a friend because their parents are gay... but I really don't know..and now my daughter is 24 so....I never will know.



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