I hope it helps you the way it has help me and others.
I'm one of those women who are ok with porn so long as my sexual needs are being met. If they aren't being met I'll be pretty unpleasant. I swear I should have been born a guy.
What's he doing on his phone?
To me porn isn't a sign of a guy who is going to stray. It's just how they are imo. I read trashy romance novels and he looks at porn. We still love each other.
Is it stress at work or something else going on that has him avoiding you? I find when my guy is depressed or stressed he just crawls into himself. I have to extracate him with the jaws of life. :P
Anyway, trying reconnecting as CrazyLife said. Do things together. It doesn't have to be huge either. My DH and I would just take short walks and talk some nights.
Have you talked to him at all btw?
On a side note.......(sorry OP),
What kind of trashy romance novels do you read? I have a ton, but they are mostly supernatural romance.
Quoting furbabymum:I'm one of those women who are ok with porn so long as my sexual needs are being met. If they aren't being met I'll be pretty unpleasant. I swear I should have been born a guy.
What's he doing on his phone?
To me porn isn't a sign of a guy who is going to stray. It's just how they are imo. I read trashy romance novels and he looks at porn. We still love each other.
Is it stress at work or something else going on that has him avoiding you? I find when my guy is depressed or stressed he just crawls into himself. I have to extracate him with the jaws of life. :P
Anyway, trying reconnecting as CrazyLife said. Do things together. It doesn't have to be huge either. My DH and I would just take short walks and talk some nights.
Have you talked to him at all btw?
Other than the phone, has something changed in your relationship? Did you gain weight, has he gained weight, is he under stress from work, did you have a major life change, are you having money troubles? I don't understand why women immediately blame the porn and scream "PORN ADDICTION!" like the people back in the 1600's used to scream "WITCH!". There are a few true porn/sex addicts out there in the world, I'm not going to dispute that, but at least 75% of the time, there is something else going on in the equation that we don't know about on here. Think, there has to be something, and if there isn't, it is possible that you are just having a low self esteem moment and reading too much into things.
I'm pretty open in what I read. I've read a lot of regency, paranormal/supernatural, mystery, modern day, medieval, etc romances. lol Love Janet Evanovich. Any author suggestions from your own collection?
Quoting ReadWriteLuv:On a side note.......(sorry OP),
What kind of trashy romance novels do you read? I have a ton, but they are mostly supernatural romance.
Quoting furbabymum:I'm one of those women who are ok with porn so long as my sexual needs are being met. If they aren't being met I'll be pretty unpleasant. I swear I should have been born a guy.
What's he doing on his phone?
To me porn isn't a sign of a guy who is going to stray. It's just how they are imo. I read trashy romance novels and he looks at porn. We still love each other.
Is it stress at work or something else going on that has him avoiding you? I find when my guy is depressed or stressed he just crawls into himself. I have to extracate him with the jaws of life. :P
Anyway, trying reconnecting as CrazyLife said. Do things together. It doesn't have to be huge either. My DH and I would just take short walks and talk some nights.
Have you talked to him at all btw?
This might seem like an odd question but.... do you still touch him? It can be so easy to fall into a rut and often one partner stops doing those little things (like touch) because the other has stopped.
Sounds to me like he has become addicted to porn - what do you think?
You know , but does your partner?
- mrstchris
on Feb. 9, 2013 at 10:02 AM