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They other day I was looking at myself in the mirror nakedand my DH was in the room with me. He didn't even glance at me, but I found out that he's been watching porn. Like these past few weeks he has been so not interested in me. Doesn't look at me hasn't touched me nothing. He always tells me he has things on his mind but he won't talk to me. He spends all his spare time on his phone. I'm trying so hard to be understanding, but I don't kniw what to do
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by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 10:02 AM
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CharlotteRose
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“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe
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by Charlotte on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:28 PM

okay, if you don't think so, then why does he prefer the company of his phone than w/his wife? 


Quoting mrstchris:

Quoting CharlotteRose:

Sounds to me like he has become addicted to porn - what do you think? 




No I don't think he's addicted to porn.



finlyhappy65
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:36 PM

Unfortunately it sounds more like another woman than a porn problem...I hope not but if he is talking about it in that way it sure sounds like it. Hugs hugs hugs


Quoting CharlotteRose:

okay, if you don't think so, then why does he prefer the company of his phone than w/his wife? 


Quoting mrstchris:

Quoting CharlotteRose:

Sounds to me like he has become addicted to porn - what do you think? 




No I don't think he's addicted to porn.




MommaTasha1003
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 2:42 PM

this is an easy trap to fall into.. I will feel the distance & think "why isnt he...." then I remember maybe its ME who should step up. a few small touches, hugs, nice kisses later we are reconnected..

Sometimes we go without sex & I am not interested, then i snap into it & think Just Do It! Then all is right again- my sex drive goes back up to normal & we feel connected again.

Men like to be pursued sometimes too.. Its can get old if your intimate life is always left up to them. They want to be wanted & desired as well..

Quoting Krysden:

This might seem like an odd question but.... do you still touch him?   It can be so easy to fall into a rut and often one partner stops doing those little things (like touch) because the other has stopped. 


CharlotteRose
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“I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.” ― Marilyn Monroe
Yesterday at 11:44 AM
by Charlotte on Feb. 9, 2013 at 3:24 PM


True and very good advice 

Quoting MommaTasha1003:

this is an easy trap to fall into.. I will feel the distance & think "why isnt he...." then I remember maybe its ME who should step up. a few small touches, hugs, nice kisses later we are reconnected..

Sometimes we go without sex & I am not interested, then i snap into it & think Just Do It! Then all is right again- my sex drive goes back up to normal & we feel connected again.

Men like to be pursued sometimes too.. Its can get old if your intimate life is always left up to them. They want to be wanted & desired as well..

Quoting Krysden:

This might seem like an odd question but.... do you still touch him?   It can be so easy to fall into a rut and often one partner stops doing those little things (like touch) because the other has stopped. 




CrazyLife1996
by on Feb. 9, 2013 at 4:21 PM
This is an excuse marriage takes work. He needs to realize this.


Quoting mrstchris:

I have tried to talk to his, but he won't talk to me. I know him and there is something going on. I let him know that I am here for him, but he just won't talk to me. Like I can't remember the last time we had sex. He is the one thar told me he feels like we are growing apart. About a month ago he told me that he feels like his penis doesn't work any more. Then said that that happened when he was younger when he got bored with a girl. Then he got a new girl then it was back like new. I've tried to spice things up. I'm just lost.

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