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Low Testosterone

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 9:42 AM
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I am just wondering if anyone out there has had any experience with this? My SO has been going through a 'funk' and it has been very frustrating to me. At first I thought he was mad at me and he just said he was really stressed. Next, I thought he was cheating.....he got pissed but final talked to me a little more and said he just isn't feeling like any touching, kissing, cuddling at all. He said no desire at all to have sex and that he isn't even masturbating much. (Which is unusually for him because he is gone during the week.). I do honestly believe that he is not cheating and has been trying to let him have more space and reduce stress. It seems to be working in that he is becoming a happier person, the guy I used to know. But, he still isn't feeling the physical side of things. I brought it up as nicely as I could this weekend and at first he got upset but then started talking about Having a conversation with a friend about low testosterone. It sounds like it could definitely be that but now, getting him to a doctor will be a major ordeal. Just looking for advice, options, experiences.... Anything will help!
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by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 12:10 PM
Dear Momnteach,

I don't think your husband is cheating.

I think he might be experiencing ED (erectile dysfunction) which could explain why he's so sensitive about the subject. If this is the case, then he should see a doctor because it can be an easy fix.

If it is low testosterone, then there may be a number of things causing this (i.e. age, lack of exercise, lack of sleep, etc.) but this too has a solution. If your husband refuses to go to the doctor then start off with supplements. The supplements I would suggest would be a Testosterone booster and arginine. The "T"levels booster will help the body promote more testosterone. Arginine, which is in most nitric oxide products, is the amino acid responsible for causing blood vessels to relax and increase in diameter, allowing more blood flow. A poor mans viagra if you will.

If he seeks medical help, then there is Testosterone Replacement Therapy which will raise his "T" levels back to normal, which in turn, help improve his mood, energy and most importantly his sex drive.

I hope this helps and gives you some form of angle to talk to your husband.
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by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 12:13 PM

I think my husband is having issues with this as well. I told mine to talk to his doctor about it. I think he will.

If yours won't... maybe he can try natural ways to boost it.

This is what I copied from a website but if you google natural ways to boost testosterone, you might find other ways.

As men age, they tend to suffer a decrease in free testosterone. Some studies show a drop in availability of 1 percent per decade at minimum, starting at the age of 30. Several causes have been identified, including a decrease in production, more testosterone being converted to estrogen and binding of free testosterone into inactive forms. Fortunately, there are a number of herbal solutions for resolving low testosterone conditions.

Mucuna Pruriens

Mucuna puriens is also known as velvet bean. It has been shown to increase testosterone production indirectly through a chemical called l-dopa. This compound is converted to a neurotransmitter known as dopamine, which stimulates the production of testosterone. Dopamine also stimulates the brain centers for sexual desire and thereby stimulates the production of testosterone.

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Chrysin is a bioflavonoid compound that is found in numerous fruits and vegetables. It does not directly increase testosterone production, but it inhibits a compound that converts testosterone to estrogen. Conversion of testosterone to estrogen is a natural process that is used prior to puberty to turn off the cellular effects of testosterone. As men age, the process can become overly active, converting much of their free testosterone to estrogen. By stopping this conversion, more free testosterone is available.


Nettle has an effect of raising testosterone levels. It does so by preventing free testosterone from being bound by another compound called Sex Hormone Binding Globulin (SHBG.) This compound binds to free testosterone and renders it inactive and useless. It becomes more active as men age, contributing to a dip in free (active) testosterone in the body. Inhibiting the action of SHBG can increase the amount of free testosterone.

by on Feb. 12, 2013 at 12:20 PM

 My DH takes medications for his bipolar that pretty effectively kill his sex drive. Still, he takes steps and has tried different medicatinos to change this. Even taking the medication he does he's learned different ways to keep his sex drive active. Where there is a will there is a way is what I'm saying with that.

I hope your DH takes it seriously and goes to the Dr. even though it will be slightly humiliating. Just remind him that you've had people's hands up your woooha and he owes you. ;)

by Member on Feb. 12, 2013 at 5:39 PM

Thank you all for sharing! I was looking at some of supplements that are on the market and I am thinking that this might be a good place to start. I am thinking that it might be something that I could talk him into, kind of like a daily vitamin. His comment to me about seeing the doctorwas that he would go when he had time......he never has time!

I am afraid that I might be the reason that he doesn't have the 'will'.  At the beginning of this, I was pushing so hard and I know I hurt his feelings but I just didn't get it. Then, even when I started to, somethings popped up that made me question......again, I overreacted. If this really is whats going on with him, I feel horrible for not being more understanding....but still frustrated that he didn't feel he could open up to me about this. We have always been able to talk about anything! :-)

by Member on Feb. 17, 2013 at 12:00 PM
Anyone else have any experience with this or with the supplants?
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