SO and I have been together since 2004. We have 2 kids together (5 & 6). Our #1 reason we fight is over how we raise the children and his irrational mood swings. He accuses me of babying and coddling too much and I see his reaction to my nurturing ways as totally unjustified.
We both work full-time and when we came home last night from picking the kids up at school, DS was a little whiny after the car ride home. SO flipped out over what is NORMAL 6 yr. old behavior. We get to the house and DD flops on the couch tired and asks daddy for a blanket. He says no - get it yourself, youre not a baby. I interrupt and say she is cold that's why she wants a blanket. Just then DS comes to me to show me a scratch on his arm and asks for a bandaid. Before i even say a word to respond, SO loses it and goes "Would you stop babying and coddling them so much! They act all whiny because you do whatever they want!"
I swear he is the one who is the big fucking moody baby. How is what I did babying or coddling? I am a mother who loves her kids!!!! In SOs undeserved defense, he is not normally like that but I swear he has male PMS because he can be super moody an irritable over nothing. Ugh.
YIKES! I hear ya-that would be really hard. I bet it's just because he was super tired but that's still not excuse
Try to agree on how both of you want to raise the kids, future expectations etc... And be willing to make a compromise.
Good luck!!
sounds like my SO...........sometimes.
he thinks that I coddle the kids to much and that i shouldn't.
ugh!
oh well. i tell him that i'm their mom and i'm going to continue to coddle them.
I tell him to get over it.
it pisses me off.
he says that the boys need to learn to do things for themselves.
well as far as i'm concerned, we need to find a happy medium.
as mothers, it's in a nature to nurture, nothing wrong with that.
I've sent my DH to his room. No kidding. I told him he wasn't taking his attitude out on us and he can go to his room.
We talk about our DS in counseling so that we are on the same page when it comes to how to handle his different stages and such. Talking about how to handle things is HUGE though.
I am not saying you don't give him enough attention, but maybe in a way he is jealous and wants more attention from you? That is the only reasonable explanation I can think of.
i agree...i tried this and it worked for us....now i am able to be the nice sweet mom i wanna be and he makes sure they are diciplined and taught how to be helpfull and have manners.....and if the kids do something wrong or act up, and he comes up with some consequences i back him up...i NEVER disrespect or contradict him in front of the kids...if we dissagree on something we talk about it privately......
Quoting justpeachy71904:
I think it is time the two of you sit down without kiddos around and discuss plans for parenting. This is sad and not ok in front of kids :(
Try to agree on how both of you want to raise the kids, future expectations etc... And be willing to make a compromise.
not sure why it is bothering me but
- No1knows
on Feb. 13, 2013 at 2:15 AM