Is it just me or is there alot of negative stuff on here about either the spouse boyfriend etc? The only person you can change is you. Obviously there are some good reasons to get out of a relationship aka abuse, cheating (after seeking help if spouse is willing) etc. But for the little things, what you need to realise is that its not the other person, its both of you. There is something missing. Girls just say it out loud men dont. So instead of giving up or talking bad about your spouse, SO, talk them up and find out what is missing. First place to look and you can google it is Love languages. What is your love language and what is your spouses love language. Second figure out what the root problem is. Third fix it. There are so many resources out there to help. I can name a few, there is a movie called fireproof. Have a date night in and watch it together. there is a book called the love dare. its a 40 day challenge. could be for both men and women. then the love lanuguage book I told you about. The love and respect book which talks about men needing respect and women needing love. Theres alot of stuff to help you in your marriage. Talk to each other. open up. stay as calm as possible even if it gets hard. and lastly, think about the things that maybe he has told you that bothers him. You cant fix your spouse but you can sure fix yourself which will change your spouse and wierd as that sounds. Be positive about your husband or SO only talk good things about them and in that you will see a change. Hope this also makes your V day a little bit better. If he is not taking the initiative dont say well if he isnt i wont cause its his turn. Wrong attitude. Blow him out of the water. Make it a competition. Men love that. Think about it and please consider trying this.