It just so happens, today my husband finally started to talk about with
me on the phone. Talk about how he feels about our situations, talk
about what happened. Honestly, I don't even want to think about it. He
wants to blame me for calling the police, he rarely looks at it from my
perspective and takes ownership of why I did. The last of 2 times that I
did, he merely pushed me away from the stove that I repeatedly turned
off. It was because he had been out all night and came home with a
hickey while I was 5 months pregnant. I wanted answers and I didn't want
him to make a pizza. Honestly, the main reason why I know at this time
it won't work is because he still thinks this is all my fault or wants
to blame me for his own consequences.
I do love my husband, why else would I have married him.
He was raised abusively and is alcoholic and has a habit of belittling and disrespecting me.
We own a home together in an nearby town and he wants to file bankruptcy and foreclose, I know, if we divorce.
What a shitty position to be going through. I wish you & your baby(ies?) a bright future despite this hurt.
Unless he's willing to get sober you are better off without him, even if you do end up letting the bank foreclose on your house, I'm sorry, best of luck to you!
Yeah, you don't need that mess. My ex is an alcoholic and he STILL blames me for the demise of our marraige. Oh, no, it wasn't his drinking, it was my refusal to keep putting up with the vomiting, the fights, all of it.
Df quit drinking for us. FOr our family. THAT is a real man. And that is what you deserve. To know YOU are worth more than a bottle of beer.
Man some of you women marry dirtbags. My husband isn't a saint, trust me on that, but I've never had to send him to jail. It baffles me why a lot of women don't want better for themselves? Is this a self-esteem thing? And I can't understand why people want to make excuses for their spouse's shitty behavior either. I was raised by an asshole closet alcoholic father and a co-dependant freak of a mother and I didn't let them turn me into a shit bag.
Quoting ReadWriteLuv:Man some of you women marry dirtbags. My husband isn't a saint, trust me on that, but I've never had to send him to jail. It baffles me why a lot of women don't want better for themselves? Is this a self-esteem thing? And I can't understand why people want to make excuses for their spouse's shitty behavior either. I was raised by an asshole closet alcoholic father and a co-dependant freak of a mother and I didn't let them turn me into a shit bag.
Thanks for all this.
It's heartbreaking. The heck of it is, he hasn't been rude to me in a couple months. I wish it would stay that way.
i've been to a women's shelter and was a client for a couple years.
Emotional abuse, classic dry-drunk behavior.
I'm just going to have to innocently tell him that he's mean to my
feelings. If I'm working around the house he tends to act bored and and
tired and go hang out with his addicted friends and get all hyped up and
energetic about that. If I'm frustrated, anxious, offended, sad about
something he did he says it's unfair to him.
He didn't take that free paint and the sander and do anything to fix the
house up since I've been gone, as much as he says he can't work around
the house because he doesn't have enough money.
He'll probaly just get defensive and angry, which is most common for him, regardless of how I coach my tone of voice tc. I'll just have to tell him that's his answer then. He doesn't really love me and this is how I know. He should be perpetually kissing my backside.
Apparently, he hasn't done much to make amends with me emotionally
because he figures I'll just get tired and scared etc and come back to
him.
He doesn't want a divorce. Technically I don't either. And, I don't want
to be the one going through the pain and agony of filing all the
paperwork and getting a babysitters. IDK.
I'm not talking down to anyone, that was a general statement. And yes, it is black and white. You either choose to stay with an abusive loser, or you take control of your own life and walk away. Mind over emotions, it would do people a lot of good. Two choices, black and white, stay or go. People make things complicated when it's really a very simple choice. And I can, and do, say whatever the feck I want.
Quoting PerfectVirgo:
It's not always black and white. And it's never helpful to talk down to women going through it.
Quoting ReadWriteLuv:Man some of you women marry dirtbags. My husband isn't a saint, trust me on that, but I've never had to send him to jail. It baffles me why a lot of women don't want better for themselves? Is this a self-esteem thing? And I can't understand why people want to make excuses for their spouse's shitty behavior either. I was raised by an asshole closet alcoholic father and a co-dependant freak of a mother and I didn't let them turn me into a shit bag.
Quoting ReadWriteLuv:I'm not talking down to anyone, that was a general statement. And yes, it is black and white. You either choose to stay with an abusive loser, or you take control of your own life and walk away. Mind over emotions, it would do people a lot of good. Two choices, black and white, stay or go. People make things complicated when it's really a very simple choice. And I can, and do, say whatever the feck I want.
Quoting PerfectVirgo:
It's not always black and white. And it's never helpful to talk down to women going through it.
Quoting ReadWriteLuv:Man some of you women marry dirtbags. My husband isn't a saint, trust me on that, but I've never had to send him to jail. It baffles me why a lot of women don't want better for themselves? Is this a self-esteem thing? And I can't understand why people want to make excuses for their spouse's shitty behavior either. I was raised by an asshole closet alcoholic father and a co-dependant freak of a mother and I didn't let them turn me into a shit bag.
do u like kissing still?
- ljeanbeans
on Feb. 17, 2013 at 3:38 AM