DH and I have been married 8 years. We have two boys, 18 mos and 4 (almost 5) years and DH has an 11 y/o girl from a previous relationship.
We got married literally the day I turned 18, at the courthouse, no dress, etc. which is what DH wanted. He wasn't a fan of big weddings at the time.
Now, 8 freaking years later, he has decided that he was an ass to insist on it being that way and is sorry I missed out on the experience, blah blah blah.
So, he wants to have a "wedding" to renew our vows for our 10 year anniversary. He has been mentioning this since our 5 year aniversary, and yesterday said "it's two years away, don't you need to start planning soon?"
My issue is, the whole thing seems stupid. I mean, won't it strike people as odd to have a wedding 10 years after the fact?
We can more than affor it now but I still can't see spending the money on an unnecessary event.
What do you think?
Hawaii is where my husband and I are doing ours
I would LOVE to be able to redo mine...I had a wedding but I was sick with a UTI and Kidney infection on my wedding day. So really if we could afford to renew our vows I would do it in a heartbeat. I have so many things planned for it if we can do it...it wouldn't be in a church but at the lake near the church...I may or may not try to lose some weight to fit back into my wedding dress(haven't decided that yet) and it would be at 5pm so we could have the white christmas lights on all the trees around us and they shine. My brides maids are all married with kids and I would love to have them stand up there with me and all wear a shade of purple...all the groomsmen to stand up there with us and just wear dark grey suits with a purple tie...the flower girl and ring bearer will be up there with us but dressed like the others....our kids will be the flower girl and ring bearer(they are 5yr and 8mo). Dh just has to say we can afford it...we've been married almost 11years...I woudn't mind waiting till our 20th to renew...dd would be 10 then and ds would be 15
I think it could be fun! And you can include the kiddos and you can be sure they'll never forget it! :)
Honestly, it's a sweet gesture. If you shoot him down, he might not be likely to make another one so freely. Men are funny that way.
I don't think its stupid I went to a full blown wedding renewal that was as big as any wedding for a couple with 3 kids who had a full blown wedding the first time also 10 yrs before . It was fun Its even more understandable when you didnt have a big wedding the first time. Its not tacky either ESPECIALLY in your situation. I think it is sweet and shows he really cares about you and wants you to have that dream wedding and I think it is something you and he will cherish the rest of your lives, and your kids will too.
YVONNE
Its always gotta be about him. kinda long
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on Feb. 17, 2013 at 10:31 AM