He wants an answer...but it's not nice and I'd really rather not say.
So today is our daughter's 10th birthday. I've spent the last month planning and getting everything together. DH suggest making some bingo cards for the party and I didn't say too much when he suggested it two weeks ago. He said he'd make the cards and then they could use something like fruit loops for the markers. Well, he never did it, so today he wanted to go online and find bingo cards then go to his mom's to print them and then go buy special markers. We have less than an hour before people are supposed to start showing up for the party.
I basically said no, the kids would entertain themselves and didn't need bingo. Later he kind of snapped at me and when I asked what was wrong he said that he was just trying to help but everything he suggests I shoot down. The three things he has suggested for this birthday are 1. Go buy red jello and make a "jello" cake. I was already making the cake and needed his help here setting up, not out running around. I did say no. 2. He suggest going to Petco to have our daughter pick out a new fish for the aquarium. Again, I needed his help here. 3. The bingo thing.
I told him I was sorry that I'd made him feel like his suggestions weren't valid or important. He asked me why I do that. The answer is simply--"You plan things, but NEVER follow through in a timely manner. If you want to do something like make bingo cards, you need to do it before the actual day you plan on using them. If you want to have a jello cake, we need to get the supplies before the day of the party. If you want to plan to take extra time to take the birthday girl to pick out a new fish...you need to plan ahead.
I told him I don't know why I do that to him--but he said I do know.