Ok so my baby is a month old today. Before she was born, my relationship with my husband of 5 years was awesome. We have a 5 year old together also. Anyways after my youngest was born things seemed fine at first. After about 2 weeks I felt like he wanted to do anything but spend time with me. Then he asked me to fix something on his phone and in the process I stumbled on porn on there. He snatched it out of my hand really quick and when I asked him about it he avoided the question. I told him that it made me feel even more unattractive then I already felt since my body is still getting back to normal. After 2 days he apologized. Then on sunday I suspected he was still looking at it and asked him and he got really defensive. We got in a big argument. I know men look at it but being in the emotional state I'm in it hurt me. Finally on Monday we had sex for the first time since baby was born. I thiught things would get back to normal but then he paid little attention to me the next 3 days even turning me down when I asked him to shower with me. I asked him about it last night on what I had done or why he didn't seem to want to be around me and at first he tried to avoid it but finally he cuddled and then started aex again. Now I feel like he felt obligated.
I know most of my feelings are coming from where I just had a baby but I was wondering if anyone else has dealt with this and did it get back to normal. Am I just being ridiculous? Any advice is appreciated!
on Feb. 22, 2013 at 8:23 AM