Nobody. I see that as a private matter between husband and wife.
Dragon, wife to Eagle. Sister-wife to Swan and Rainbow. Author, astronomer, world traveler, gamer, & reader. Muslim revert. In an inter-racial and cross-cultural marriage.
Depends. DH and I are usually really good and telling each other when we have a problem. But if he's really bugging me, I go to my best friend first or during, and if it's REALLY bad I go to our parents. A few weeks ago, hubby just came out and said that having a new baby was too much for him, and he's thinking about leaving...I FREAKED. He's over it now and said it was stupid (WELL YEA).
Most of the time I like to keep it between SO and I but there are times I know that my issues are unwarrented so talking it over with my best friend usually gives me a level head without having to drag the stress of every little emotion outburst into SO's and my relationship. It's just about knowing the difference between a real problem and just being a hormonal woman (which I tend to be).
If I have a problem with DH....I talk to DH about it. No one else can actually help solve anything....he and I are the ones that need to work things out.
I talk to my husband first. I have to make sure that he knows there is a problem and give him a chance to fix it first. If it's a minor issue I usally talk to my best friend about it, not really for advice, but just to get it off my chest. Major issues I talk about with my MIL, we are very close and sometimes she has really good advice. But most of the time my husband and I are able to work things out in our own way, without anyones advice.
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