If you didn't get a gift on your anniversary would it bother you?
BF and I have been dating for 2 years. On our anniversary, we went to dinner, then he came home and he called his mother to bs for a cuple hours.....until I went to bed. I had a gift for him, but did not give it to him unless we both mentioned it. He had nothing for me. I'm kind of hurt that he didnt even think of it.....but i dont know if I should be. Would you be upset if you got nothing?
Yes. It does.
And it pertains to your statement and responses, as well.
You are clearly immature and delusional. You should probably go hang out in Mom Confessions.
Quoting 1der1:
Doesnt pertain to the question.
Quoting Megan11587:Again, how old are you and how long have you been with your SO?
Quoting 1der1:One that is meant to be should not require work.
Quoting Megan11587:I'm sorry, did you say that a relationship shouldn't require work?
How old are you and how long have you been with your SO, exactly?
Quoting 1der1:
Please don't take any of my questions or answers as sarcasm but.......if he got himself into this drinking problem, don't you think he should be getting himself out of it rather than you holding his hand? To me...a relationship shouldn't require work.
Quoting skippito:
We were teens when we first got together so we grew up together that in itself takes work. I was sexually abused as a child and worked through that with him by my side, trust issues, insecurities ect.. takes work to get to a good place emotionally. He had a drinking problem a few years ago that he worked through with me by his side. We have a home and two children we work to strive for balance in our lives as parents, lovers, and friends. Uh I feel like i could bore you to death with the details of working on a relationship. But you get the idea. For us it takes work daily, monthly, yearly if you will, to make it strong and lasting. I supose i see each day we get to have together as a gift.
Quoting 1der1:
A question for you if I may.....what did you do to "work hard on your relationship?"
Quoting skippito:
Our years together mean the world to me! You are misunderstanding me. We are proud to say 18yrs and counting especially in this age of divorce. We celebrate our lives together in many different ways. I am saying that because we don't do a traditional celebration with gifts my feelings are not hurt by not recieving one. I have worked hard on my relationship and can say with certainty it means more than words can express.
I let V Day, and Xmas slide for presents however Anniversaries and Birthdays are a must and I would give him his gift actions speak louder than words kwim? Yes, I would be very upset.....
Curious.....why didnt you celebrate the years you dated? Arent they just as significant except you didn't have a piece of paper between the two of you.
Quoting MrsSexyCurtains:
Honestly we always go out to dinner as a family and sometimes I'll get a gift. I'm spoiled so I basically buy whatever I want throughout the year. We never celebrated the years we dated, only the years we've been married. If it bothers you that much, I'd just talk to him and let him know how you feel. Communication is a key thing in any relationship, he may not know how you truly feel.
Quoting skippito:
We were teens when we first got together so we grew up together that in itself takes work. I was sexually abused as a child and worked through that with him by my side, trust issues, insecurities ect.. takes work to get to a good place emotionally. He had a drinking problem a few years ago that he worked through with me by his side. We have a home and two children we work to strive for balance in our lives as parents, lovers, and friends. Uh I feel like i could bore you to death with the details of working on a relationship. But you get the idea. For us it takes work daily, monthly, yearly if you will, to make it strong and lasting. I supose i see each day we get to have together as a gift.
Quoting 1der1:
A question for you if I may.....what did you do to "work hard on your relationship?"
Quoting skippito:
Our years together mean the world to me! You are misunderstanding me. We are proud to say 18yrs and counting especially in this age of divorce. We celebrate our lives together in many different ways. I am saying that because we don't do a traditional celebration with gifts my feelings are not hurt by not recieving one. I have worked hard on my relationship and can say with certainty it means more than words can express.
Not at all. The time I get to spend with my DF is enough for me. I cherish every moment.
Not all relationships require work. Mine has been very easy going.
I'm almost 50 and we're coming up for our 25th anniversary. How about you?
Quoting Megan11587:
I'm sorry, did you say that a relationship shouldn't require work?
How old are you and how long have you been with your SO, exactly?
Quoting 1der1:
Please don't take any of my questions or answers as sarcasm but.......if he got himself into this drinking problem, don't you think he should be getting himself out of it rather than you holding his hand? To me...a relationship shouldn't require work.
Quoting skippito:
We were teens when we first got together so we grew up together that in itself takes work. I was sexually abused as a child and worked through that with him by my side, trust issues, insecurities ect.. takes work to get to a good place emotionally. He had a drinking problem a few years ago that he worked through with me by his side. We have a home and two children we work to strive for balance in our lives as parents, lovers, and friends. Uh I feel like i could bore you to death with the details of working on a relationship. But you get the idea. For us it takes work daily, monthly, yearly if you will, to make it strong and lasting. I supose i see each day we get to have together as a gift.
Quoting 1der1:
A question for you if I may.....what did you do to "work hard on your relationship?"
Quoting skippito:
Our years together mean the world to me! You are misunderstanding me. We are proud to say 18yrs and counting especially in this age of divorce. We celebrate our lives together in many different ways. I am saying that because we don't do a traditional celebration with gifts my feelings are not hurt by not recieving one. I have worked hard on my relationship and can say with certainty it means more than words can express.
When you met your dh/so?
- 1der1
on Feb. 27, 2013 at 8:44 AM