My DH had gastric surgery a couple years ago. Since then, he devoloped a problem with alcohol. This is fairly common with people who've had gastric surgery as their bodies no longer process alcohol in the same manner as someone who has not had a procedure. The alcohol gets into their blood stream MUCH quicker. They kinda go from 0-60, if you now what I mean. Well, The thing is, he became a binge drinker. He couldn't stop once he started. And he started to lie about stopping at bars, etc. All of this I confronted with him, talked and talked and talked.... complained... cried. Anyhow. His drinking would get so bad that he would usually black out. Have no memory of what happened, what was said, where he was, what he did...
I had called his brother who came over and tried to talk to him, but he was incoherant. So he left and decided to talk to him later.
All of this culminated in him beating the crap out of me. He has wayyyyyy too much to drink one day, and I refused to let him drive with me in the car, and he wouldn't let me drive. So I got out at an intersection and had a good friend take me home. I called and found out he had gone to another bar after I got out of the car as well. Well, I went home, took a bath, and went to bed. He came to bed and said some very heinous stuff to me and I kicked him out of the bed and slapped him. He broke four of my teeth, blackened my eye, almost broke my nose, bruised my arms and cheek, and cut my forehead open.
I called his brother to see if I could come over and stay there. He came over with my SIL and when they saw me, they flipped OUT.
At that point, the alcohol was starting to wear off and DH began to realize what he had done. At that point I wasn't as concerned about myself, but for him. I was worried he might do something to himself out of guilt and shame.
He has sworn off alcohol and hasn't touched it in almost two weeks. He has never been abusive without being drunk.
My question is, do I trust him? I love him and we are expecting a baby. But I don't ever want to relive that night again. Is it possible for someone to quit something like that on their own. cold turkey? Am I fooling myself thinking things will be ok?