The reason I bring this up is because almost all physical imtimacy between us has been lost and I feel like if we at least had our marital bed back, may be it would help our marriage.
We lack communication because not only does he spend all our family time only talking to and playing with our daughter, but also I am sure I put him off with a sullen attitude frankly because I am resentful and I also have been diagnosed with major depression for which I am on meds.
I text him with "I love yous" and say it every few days. Sometimes I get an i love you back and sometimes not.
We never have adult conversation becaise we are always around little ears so major issu es seldom get talked out and if they do it is over the phone while at work.
We havent had sex in about five weeks and I cant remember the last time he actually kissed and touched me. Sex is quick and quiet and unsatisfying. There has not been passion since five years ago after we first had our daugher
I know I sound like im jealous of our daughter, but it's not like that. I am so thankful he is a wonderful dad to her. The problem is that he is not teaching her how to be an attentive and loving spouse. My efforts to hig him or hold his hand or kiss him are often rejected with some excise like he has a cough or runn nose or i do or whatever-- he is sort of a germaphobe.
The point is I try but feel awful and unloved when I get pushed away or turned down and it makes me not want to try anymore.
We never and I mean NEVER have date nights. I have asked for this many times. I have scheduled it on my own only to hear he doesnt feel like it anymore. I have asked to be invited with him to lunch but he never asks. I suppose my depression has turned him off to me completely
So here I am feeling utterly rejected and alone all the time. At bedtime I go to bed with our daughter in order to keep her in the bed because she wakes up frequently if I get out of bed. So our routine has become that I always go to bed early with her while dh stays up for hours to unwind after work and playing with our daughter. He always hugs her, kisses her, and tells her goodnight sweetie before shutting the door. I am the invisible wife/roomate/housekeeper/caretaker of our child while he works. That is all I am
I have explained these feelings to him many times. Nothing changes. No effort is made. Help!!!!!!!!!!!!
How to i get my husband back? I am so effing alone
Btw i have been trying to take better care of myself with nutrition and exercise and social time with friends in order to keep my sanity. But i feel like a single woman who is not allowed to date if that makes since. No i am not interested in cheating. But it really fels like i am single with a guy roommate. How do u reconnect if the other person has interest in trying?
Sorry if there are spelling errors and lone words. My cell keyboard keeps acting up.