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"If your attitude doesn't change... " **UPDATED**

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Yup... that's what DF just had the nerve to say to me. Today is the first day of me quitting smoking (he's supposed to also but he lied to me and stopped and got a black & Mild cigar) and because I told him he needed to help with things around the house (I work m-f and he just went to his first interview in 3 1/2 months that he's been out of work. Because me, his mom and his sister have been bitching at him for at least that long to find another job. I mean, we have rent, food, etc that I need help with and he has the nerve to sit on his ass and play video games all day long or play on the computer all day long while I cook, clean, help the kids, etc.

I finally lashed out at him today and he had the nerve to tell me "Well when you're off work all you do is want me to do everything for you. I'm not your puppet Mistress Bitch!" I told him "Oh yeah, because you do EVERYTHING. I've been the one doing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, kitchen, etc because everyone else is too fuckin' lazy to clean up after themselves. I mean how hard is it to load the damn dishwasher immediately?"

So now he's threatening to kick me out of MY bed (I've had the bed since way before we were together) and told me that he doesn't want to see me, feel me or hear me anymore that he's disgusted with me. 

WTF??? I'm hurt and pissed beyond belief. I'm sure this all has to do with quitting smoking today... but really? Seriously? I'm so close to telling him we're definitely through. I can't take the depressiveness from him anymore. While he's depressed he's extremely rude.


I just don't know what to do anymore.


Sleeping on the couch again tonight... the ass still hasn't apologized at all. I'm going to keep sleeping on the couch until he realizes that I'm done with him treating me however he wants to.


I actually don't mind sleeping on the couch right now.... I've never slept better! LOL We just got brand new couches about a month ago.... my Back is soooo not in pain. Loving it :P

Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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MagicTemptation
by Christina on Mar. 7, 2013 at 10:33 AM

Sorry that does not seem to be a healthy relationship

gonecrazi
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 11:44 AM

 bump

Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 1:54 PM

I want to chalk everything up to him being out of work... but even he's getting an attitude with his mom and sister when they try to help him. His sister and I were talking and she even said he needs to get his caveman mentality out of his brain and grow the hell up. 

I love him, but I can't keep allowing him to treat me like this.

Quoting MagicTemptation:

Sorry that does not seem to be a healthy relationship


Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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KatieFlower
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 2:23 PM

Wow thats really really mean... Im sorry I dont have advice but just wanted to send you a hug

best of luck

Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:01 PM

Thanks.... I've ignored him most of the day.... he's getting ready to leave for orientation for his new job and was asking me about tax questions. I told him... doesn't matter what you put... because it's only you that you can claim... follow directions.

Quoting KatieFlower:

Wow thats really really mean... Im sorry I dont have advice but just wanted to send you a hug

best of luck


Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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Jen0911
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:08 PM
Im sorry, maybe you both needed time to chill away from each other, hopefully his new job well make things better between the two of you.
And totally off subject but my ds 19 months wears hearing aids too.
Hoping things get better for you!


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Well... I slept on the couch last night... my doing, not his.... I didn't want to even be touched by him last night. This morning I wake up, get my oldest up, dooze back off and wake up to my oldest (12yrs old) telling me he missed the bus, then on the way to taking him to school he tells me he forgot his hearing aids. So this morning didn't start off very well.


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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:25 PM

I hope so I'm just so sick of being called the lazy one when he's been out of work and not busting his ass to get another job until the 2nd time I made him find a way to get money for rent. 

Quoting Jen0911:

Im sorry, maybe you both needed time to chill away from each other, hopefully his new job well make things better between the two of you.
And totally off subject but my ds 19 months wears hearing aids too.
Hoping things get better for you!


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Well... I slept on the couch last night... my doing, not his.... I didn't want to even be touched by him last night. This morning I wake up, get my oldest up, dooze back off and wake up to my oldest (12yrs old) telling me he missed the bus, then on the way to taking him to school he tells me he forgot his hearing aids. So this morning didn't start off very well.



Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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MagicTemptation
by Christina on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:27 PM

I went through something with my exhusband. It wasn't until I walked out with the kids that he realized what a major screw up he was being. He  got his life back together and apologized. My current S/O lost his job, went into depression and got very selfish. He would sit home all day, not look for work, then I come in from work and bitch that the house was trashed, we went round and around. When he realized just how much he was messing up and missing our on us and our children he cut way back on being self absorbed. He knows I will no longer tolerant it anymore. 

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I want to chalk everything up to him being out of work... but even he's getting an attitude with his mom and sister when they try to help him. His sister and I were talking and she even said he needs to get his caveman mentality out of his brain and grow the hell up. 

I love him, but I can't keep allowing him to treat me like this.

Quoting MagicTemptation:

Sorry that does not seem to be a healthy relationship



Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:31 PM

Well I have his sister and mom on my side telling him he needs to get his shit together. His dad flat out told him to get his head out of his ass. For his dad to say that I think he realized that he needed to take care of something. His dad is a quiet person but will tell it like it is and if someone is screwing up really bad he'll tell them. 

Quoting MagicTemptation:

I went through something with my exhusband. It wasn't until I walked out with the kids that he realized what a major screw up he was being. He  got his life back together and apologized. My current S/O lost his job, went into depression and got very selfish. He would sit home all day, not look for work, then I come in from work and bitch that the house was trashed, we went round and around. When he realized just how much he was messing up and missing our on us and our children he cut way back on being self absorbed. He knows I will no longer tolerant it anymore. 

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I want to chalk everything up to him being out of work... but even he's getting an attitude with his mom and sister when they try to help him. His sister and I were talking and she even said he needs to get his caveman mentality out of his brain and grow the hell up. 

I love him, but I can't keep allowing him to treat me like this.

Quoting MagicTemptation:

Sorry that does not seem to be a healthy relationship




Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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Jen0911
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:31 PM
Being called lazy when you work so hard is hurtful, have you talked about maybe going to counseling to communicate better? Maybe it will get him to see what he is doing wrong in name calling and expecting you to do everything. Some places even offer counseling free.


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I hope so I'm just so sick of being called the lazy one when he's been out of work and not busting his ass to get another job until the 2nd time I made him find a way to get money for rent. 

Quoting Jen0911:

Im sorry, maybe you both needed time to chill away from each other, hopefully his new job well make things better between the two of you.

And totally off subject but my ds 19 months wears hearing aids too.

Hoping things get better for you!





Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Well... I slept on the couch last night... my doing, not his.... I didn't want to even be touched by him last night. This morning I wake up, get my oldest up, dooze back off and wake up to my oldest (12yrs old) telling me he missed the bus, then on the way to taking him to school he tells me he forgot his hearing aids. So this morning didn't start off very well.





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