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"If your attitude doesn't change... " **UPDATED**

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Yup... that's what DF just had the nerve to say to me. Today is the first day of me quitting smoking (he's supposed to also but he lied to me and stopped and got a black & Mild cigar) and because I told him he needed to help with things around the house (I work m-f and he just went to his first interview in 3 1/2 months that he's been out of work. Because me, his mom and his sister have been bitching at him for at least that long to find another job. I mean, we have rent, food, etc that I need help with and he has the nerve to sit on his ass and play video games all day long or play on the computer all day long while I cook, clean, help the kids, etc.

I finally lashed out at him today and he had the nerve to tell me "Well when you're off work all you do is want me to do everything for you. I'm not your puppet Mistress Bitch!" I told him "Oh yeah, because you do EVERYTHING. I've been the one doing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, kitchen, etc because everyone else is too fuckin' lazy to clean up after themselves. I mean how hard is it to load the damn dishwasher immediately?"

So now he's threatening to kick me out of MY bed (I've had the bed since way before we were together) and told me that he doesn't want to see me, feel me or hear me anymore that he's disgusted with me. 

WTF??? I'm hurt and pissed beyond belief. I'm sure this all has to do with quitting smoking today... but really? Seriously? I'm so close to telling him we're definitely through. I can't take the depressiveness from him anymore. While he's depressed he's extremely rude.


I just don't know what to do anymore.


Sleeping on the couch again tonight... the ass still hasn't apologized at all. I'm going to keep sleeping on the couch until he realizes that I'm done with him treating me however he wants to.


I actually don't mind sleeping on the couch right now.... I've never slept better! LOL We just got brand new couches about a month ago.... my Back is soooo not in pain. Loving it :P

Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:36 PM

oh we're in counseling.... but of course he will say what he thinks the counselor wants to hear and when we leave we'll get into a fight! I don't say things in the counseling session because I know I'll hurt him.

Quoting Jen0911:

Being called lazy when you work so hard is hurtful, have you talked about maybe going to counseling to communicate better? Maybe it will get him to see what he is doing wrong in name calling and expecting you to do everything. Some places even offer counseling free.


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I hope so I'm just so sick of being called the lazy one when he's been out of work and not busting his ass to get another job until the 2nd time I made him find a way to get money for rent. 

Quoting Jen0911:

Im sorry, maybe you both needed time to chill away from each other, hopefully his new job well make things better between the two of you.

And totally off subject but my ds 19 months wears hearing aids too.

Hoping things get better for you!





Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Well... I slept on the couch last night... my doing, not his.... I didn't want to even be touched by him last night. This morning I wake up, get my oldest up, dooze back off and wake up to my oldest (12yrs old) telling me he missed the bus, then on the way to taking him to school he tells me he forgot his hearing aids. So this morning didn't start off very well.






Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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LizzieAnnesMom
by Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:41 PM
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I would tell him if he wants to act like a child and pout, HE can take his happy ass out of MY bed and park it on the couch. If he isn't working then he needs to take care of the house and quit being a lazy ass.
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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:51 PM

OH his sister called him earlier and bitched him out. I could hear them yelling while I was working (I work from home but I'm in telecommunications so I have calls coming in constantly and couldn't break). All I heard was "She's bitching at me for not having a job, for being on my xbox and computer... all she does is sit at the computer and work 5 days a fuckin' week.... big fuckin' deal" His sister got pissed and told him "At least she has a fuckin' job... you're too lazy to take the jobs I had in the bag for you that would be 40+ hrs a week and triple what you were making before because you don't want to do manual labor. You have a family and a wedding to pay for... It's not fair to her to have to do everything!"

Quoting LizzieAnnesMom:

I would tell him if he wants to act like a child and pout, HE can take his happy ass out of MY bed and park it on the couch. If he isn't working then he needs to take care of the house and quit being a lazy ass.


Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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LizzieAnnesMom
by Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 3:58 PM
Awesome of her :)

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

OH his sister called him earlier and bitched him out. I could hear them yelling while I was working (I work from home but I'm in telecommunications so I have calls coming in constantly and couldn't break). All I heard was "She's bitching at me for not having a job, for being on my xbox and computer... all she does is sit at the computer and work 5 days a fuckin' week.... big fuckin' deal" His sister got pissed and told him "At least she has a fuckin' job... you're too lazy to take the jobs I had in the bag for you that would be 40+ hrs a week and triple what you were making before because you don't want to do manual labor. You have a family and a wedding to pay for... It's not fair to her to have to do everything!"

Quoting LizzieAnnesMom:

I would tell him if he wants to act like a child and pout, HE can take his happy ass out of MY bed and park it on the couch. If he isn't working then he needs to take care of the house and quit being a lazy ass.


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Jen0911
by on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:10 PM
Maybe try a session by yourself and tell the counselor everything you want to say but don't because you're afraid to hurt his feelings and maybe your counselor can bring it about in a way that he'll understand and listen to.


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

oh we're in counseling.... but of course he will say what he thinks the counselor wants to hear and when we leave we'll get into a fight! I don't say things in the counseling session because I know I'll hurt him.

Quoting Jen0911:

Being called lazy when you work so hard is hurtful, have you talked about maybe going to counseling to communicate better? Maybe it will get him to see what he is doing wrong in name calling and expecting you to do everything. Some places even offer counseling free.





Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I hope so I'm just so sick of being called the lazy one when he's been out of work and not busting his ass to get another job until the 2nd time I made him find a way to get money for rent. 

Quoting Jen0911:

Im sorry, maybe you both needed time to chill away from each other, hopefully his new job well make things better between the two of you.


And totally off subject but my ds 19 months wears hearing aids too.


Hoping things get better for you!








Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Well... I slept on the couch last night... my doing, not his.... I didn't want to even be touched by him last night. This morning I wake up, get my oldest up, dooze back off and wake up to my oldest (12yrs old) telling me he missed the bus, then on the way to taking him to school he tells me he forgot his hearing aids. So this morning didn't start off very well.









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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:12 PM

I have a session on Friday so we'll see.... 

Quoting Jen0911:

Maybe try a session by yourself and tell the counselor everything you want to say but don't because you're afraid to hurt his feelings and maybe your counselor can bring it about in a way that he'll understand and listen to.


Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

oh we're in counseling.... but of course he will say what he thinks the counselor wants to hear and when we leave we'll get into a fight! I don't say things in the counseling session because I know I'll hurt him.

Quoting Jen0911:

Being called lazy when you work so hard is hurtful, have you talked about maybe going to counseling to communicate better? Maybe it will get him to see what he is doing wrong in name calling and expecting you to do everything. Some places even offer counseling free.





Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I hope so I'm just so sick of being called the lazy one when he's been out of work and not busting his ass to get another job until the 2nd time I made him find a way to get money for rent. 

Quoting Jen0911:

Im sorry, maybe you both needed time to chill away from each other, hopefully his new job well make things better between the two of you.


And totally off subject but my ds 19 months wears hearing aids too.


Hoping things get better for you!








Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

Well... I slept on the couch last night... my doing, not his.... I didn't want to even be touched by him last night. This morning I wake up, get my oldest up, dooze back off and wake up to my oldest (12yrs old) telling me he missed the bus, then on the way to taking him to school he tells me he forgot his hearing aids. So this morning didn't start off very well.










Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 7, 2013 at 4:13 PM

Yeah she's awesome. I love her!

Quoting LizzieAnnesMom:

Awesome of her :)

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

OH his sister called him earlier and bitched him out. I could hear them yelling while I was working (I work from home but I'm in telecommunications so I have calls coming in constantly and couldn't break). All I heard was "She's bitching at me for not having a job, for being on my xbox and computer... all she does is sit at the computer and work 5 days a fuckin' week.... big fuckin' deal" His sister got pissed and told him "At least she has a fuckin' job... you're too lazy to take the jobs I had in the bag for you that would be 40+ hrs a week and triple what you were making before because you don't want to do manual labor. You have a family and a wedding to pay for... It's not fair to her to have to do everything!"

Quoting LizzieAnnesMom:

I would tell him if he wants to act like a child and pout, HE can take his happy ass out of MY bed and park it on the couch. If he isn't working then he needs to take care of the house and quit being a lazy ass.



Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:02 AM

BUMP!

bi-polarmommy
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 1:35 AM

 why dont you make HIM sleep on the couch?

2lilmamas
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 4:52 AM
Its immature of him to take that approach. He needs to have your support. Im sure quiting is jot easy. Give it your all so this wont be a issue between the two of you.
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