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"If your attitude doesn't change... " **UPDATED**

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Yup... that's what DF just had the nerve to say to me. Today is the first day of me quitting smoking (he's supposed to also but he lied to me and stopped and got a black & Mild cigar) and because I told him he needed to help with things around the house (I work m-f and he just went to his first interview in 3 1/2 months that he's been out of work. Because me, his mom and his sister have been bitching at him for at least that long to find another job. I mean, we have rent, food, etc that I need help with and he has the nerve to sit on his ass and play video games all day long or play on the computer all day long while I cook, clean, help the kids, etc.

I finally lashed out at him today and he had the nerve to tell me "Well when you're off work all you do is want me to do everything for you. I'm not your puppet Mistress Bitch!" I told him "Oh yeah, because you do EVERYTHING. I've been the one doing the dishes, cleaning the bathroom, kitchen, etc because everyone else is too fuckin' lazy to clean up after themselves. I mean how hard is it to load the damn dishwasher immediately?"

So now he's threatening to kick me out of MY bed (I've had the bed since way before we were together) and told me that he doesn't want to see me, feel me or hear me anymore that he's disgusted with me. 

WTF??? I'm hurt and pissed beyond belief. I'm sure this all has to do with quitting smoking today... but really? Seriously? I'm so close to telling him we're definitely through. I can't take the depressiveness from him anymore. While he's depressed he's extremely rude.


I just don't know what to do anymore.


Sleeping on the couch again tonight... the ass still hasn't apologized at all. I'm going to keep sleeping on the couch until he realizes that I'm done with him treating me however he wants to.


I actually don't mind sleeping on the couch right now.... I've never slept better! LOL We just got brand new couches about a month ago.... my Back is soooo not in pain. Loving it :P

Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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by on Mar. 6, 2013 at 10:19 PM
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cjsix
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 4:55 AM

 I would not be the one sleeping on the couch....

partyCongradulations on quitting! Keep it up,you Can do this!

Jennygurl09
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 5:27 AM



Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I want to chalk everything up to him being out of work... but even he's getting an attitude with his mom and sister when they try to help him. His sister and I were talking and she even said he needs to get his caveman mentality out of his brain and grow the hell up. 

I love him, but I can't keep allowing him to treat me like this.

Quoting MagicTemptation:

Sorry that does not seem to be a healthy relationship



Actually during the times of the cavemen there was complete equality between man, and women. You didn't begin to gather a change in that relationship until sometime in the bronze age *uselessknowledge.com*.

CharlotteRose
by Charlotte on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:43 AM
I hope things start to calm down for u and tonite have him sleep on the couch shit its yr bed!! Congrats on quitting smoking :)
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Acid
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:53 AM

And you're going to throw your life in the gutter and marry this guy, why?

It's not going to change when you get married.  It will get worse.

true-love-21
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 7:56 AM
Soo u have to sleep on the couch while he sleeps in your bed? Ha id kick his azz out!
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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:22 AM

I actually don't mind sleeping on the couch right now.... I've never slept better! LOL We just got brand new couches about a month ago.... my Back is soooo not in pain. Loving it :P

Quoting cjsix:

 I would not be the one sleeping on the couch....

partyCongradulations on quitting! Keep it up,you Can do this!


Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 10:23 AM

So because he quit smoking and I did at the same time it's throwing my life in the gutter? Nah... It's a rough stage. 

Quoting Acid:

And you're going to throw your life in the gutter and marry this guy, why?

It's not going to change when you get married.  It will get worse.


Follow my weight loss Journey.... I have a weightloss goal to hit 135-140lbs by Oct 2012....Can I do it by changing the weigh I eat, using Body By Vi , and exercising more? We shall see!!!! http://www.myfitnesspal.com/luvmykidz04


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Luv.My.Kidz
by Bronze Member on Mar. 8, 2013 at 12:03 PM

BUMP!

cjsix
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 2:02 PM

 As someone who has back pain daily...if you sleeping on the couch is helping your back not hurt,it's a blessing! Don't tell him though he may decide to let you have the bed...lol!

Quoting Luv.My.Kidz:

I actually don't mind sleeping on the couch right now.... I've never slept better! LOL We just got brand new couches about a month ago.... my Back is soooo not in pain. Loving it :P

Quoting cjsix:

 I would not be the one sleeping on the couch....

partyCongradulations on quitting! Keep it up,you Can do this!


 

Mommy12612
by on Mar. 8, 2013 at 9:40 PM

Just remember you have enough stuff to deal with, and you dont have to take anyones shit! You have been doing it by yourself anyway, soo if it gets unbearable he can become a weekend daddy if he chooses.. and you can go off and do what you been doing except be left alone in peace!

 

Some guys just cant appreciate a good woman....

 

on the flip side... he could feel like less of a man since he hasnt been able to provide for the family.. but either way It does not give him the right to kick you out of any where or speak to you in that form if anyone should get out it should be his ass...

 

stay strong... your a tough cookie !  I give you props for all you do! it aint easy... bow down

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