Does anyone else feel like they married a man-child?
My husband is like a kid, I swear to God. It's not ALL bad, because it's part of the reason we are compatible... we enjoy a lot of the same things and laugh about a lot of the same things. But when it comes to responsibility, I feel like I have to shoulder all of it.
He put me in charge of our finances because he is a self-proclaimed impulse buyer and I am frugal and skimpy with money. But this doesn't stop him from spending too much money on shit we can't afford or don't need. One example: he thinks he's fat, and so instead of exercising more or watching what he eats, he's blowing money on "weight loss" supplements and belly bands... and hiding them from me. I hate that he is uncomfortable and self-conscious because I think he's beautiful. But that's not an excuse to spend money on shit that doesn't work when we need it for diapers and formula for our children.
Another example: He keeps buying new video games when he has said a hundred times that he never plays any of the ones he already has.
I want him to have everything he wants, and if I could give it to him, I would. But I should not be the only one in this family who thinks about the family over myself. I am incapable of buying anything for myself, because I'm constantly asking myself "how will this benefit us as a family?" We are in a really bad financial situation. If we can't afford to have any more kids, then we certainly can't afford for my husband to act like one.
Have any of you dealt with this??? I don't know what to do, because I've talked to him about it before and it still continues. He even still has his old checking account from before we got married and keeps "forgetting" to close it. I'm afraid this is going to strain our marriage if I have to keep being the only goddamn adult.