Just curious. Was there a moment like in Eat Pray Love where you just started crying and snapped? Was it a long drawn out process? Did you have an epiphany, or did you know for months or years?
Long drawn out process. The straw that broke me was finding out he'd been sleeping with my cousin.
I said that if your marriage could be featured on Jerry Springer it was a clear enough sign to call it quits.
Oh my yea that's pretty trifling of him and your cousin, do you still deal with cousin or did you cut them both.
Quoting Zazayam:Long drawn out process. The straw that broke me was finding out he'd been sleeping with my cousin.
I said that if your marriage could be featured on Jerry Springer it was a clear enough sign to call it quits.
Oh no, she's gone too. I don't have time in my life for people like that, not worth it.
Quoting MomRocs1102:Oh my yea that's pretty trifling of him and your cousin, do you still deal with cousin or did you cut them both.
Quoting Zazayam:Long drawn out process. The straw that broke me was finding out he'd been sleeping with my cousin.
I said that if your marriage could be featured on Jerry Springer it was a clear enough sign to call it quits.
My ex was a jerk, a cheater, and just a negative selfish person, until today I would have said he has changed or matured over the years. But he literally called me when our son was barely over 1 and we had just bought our first home, (ie things going great on home front) and he was out of town and said you know this whole marriage, baby thing isnt really working for me.... that was pretty much it, went to therapy he wouldnt show up, etc... I just was like really my son and I deserve better, we still didnt divorce until my son was almost 3. I think you can put up with a lot trying to make it work or wanting to believe it can get better, but it usually dosent, and it was much better for us to be away from him and on our own surrounded by a loving family
The day my dad died was somewhat unexpected. He had renal cancer that had metastasized to his lung. He was in the hospital for pneumonia but was supposed to get out that day. Instead, he had a pulmonary embolism and was intubated. I had to sign the forms to take my 59 year old dad off life support. My ex didn't even show up at the hospital. It took 8 hours before dad's body gave up and I sat there and watched him die completely by myself. I am a very independent person but at 3am when I was driving home after the most difficult thing I'd ever had to do, the epiphany hit me. If my husband couldn't even be there for me when I needed him more than I ever had then why did I want to forgive him having an affair? Why should I allow him to continue to disrespect me like that?
My ex was self employed at the time and ran our retail business. I found out a couple of weeks after the funeral that he had his girlfriend work in our store so he could go to the funeral. That was it for me. I was done. That was in June and I still didn't file for divorce until October but I made him move out. The divorce was finalized the next May.
Sometimes I wonder if dad hadn't died or been sick if we would've worked it out. But even if we had I think we eventually would've divorced anyway because I don't think he would've ever stopped seeing her or lying to me.
Dh and my argument today made me so mad, and realized he is lazy
- ReadWriteLuv
on Mar. 20, 2013 at 11:04 PM