I should preface this by saying that I know very few of my husbands friends and I think that makes me feel insecure about him going out at night. On the occassion that we actually go on a date night it is typically just the two of us, but my husband goes out weekly with "people from work." I typically don't say anything because 1. he works so hard part of me feels like he deserves to go out, 2. I know he gets overwhelmed being at home with a roudy 3 year old. On the occassion that I ask him where he is going or who is going out with him he shoots me some pithy remark about me being to controling or he'll say something like, "what are you gonna tell me I can't go out." And then he never ends up answering the question because he's now placed put some sort of twisted blame on me. He also had a reputation as having a way with the lady's before we dated and married, and he still talks about previous girlfriends and how often someone hits on him. (we've been together nearly 4years)
There are many other things that I take issue with in our relationship but the point of my post is, has anyone ever tried to set a trap for their husband to see if they bite? Gone fishing for information? I was thinking of having someone hit on him intentionally when he is out and see where he takes it or at the very least hire a P.I. to see if he actually goes where he says he goes. This may sound foolish, I know. And I likely should just trust my gut rather than go through all this nonsense to find out something I may already know. But I want to know what he is doing when he "goes out." He may not be cheating on me in the physical sense but there are other ways to disrespect your wife, your family and that's what I need to know.