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So he showed up with paper work… need advice!!! ****UPDATE****

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After all that has happened in the last couple months (getting pregnant, moving across state to be with DH, finding out he was having an affair 2 days after I got here) he shows up this morning at 5am. He said we needed to talk so I let him in. He went straight to my room and sat on the bed. With me not feeling good (being pregnant) I laid down and listened to him…

He proved to me that he is not with the other girl anymore and has not seen her in over a week
and finally called it off with her 4 days ago. Then he handed me papers for marriage counseling he already signed us up for it and he has already seen the counselor for himself. He apologized for everything admitted all of his wrong doings to me and asked me for a second chance.

Should I do it? This is the first time DH and I have ever been through something like this. We have a lot of ups and downs in our relationship but never this. I just don't know if I can trust him to change or not. I'm so confused

Thank you all for your advice… this is a struggle for me because I do love him with all my heart. I'm going to take it slow and keep my main focuse on my children and my health. If things with DH and I go somewhere then so be if not then so be it. I guess now all I can do is sit and wait to see if he changes.
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by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 10:35 AM
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TommyAbby
by Melissa on Mar. 28, 2013 at 5:59 PM

Sit and wait for what???

Are you going to try the counseling???

PISCIS29
by Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:01 PM
This. Hugs.

Quoting barrelracer1699:

If you want to save the marriage why not? If it was me, and he proved it, I would go for the couseling. He apparently wants it to happen since he set everything up!

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elkmomma
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:24 PM

At the very least the counseling should help the 2 of you break it off nicely in an adult way and set up parenting plan, visitations, even child support.  If they cannot fill those, they should be able to set you up with some one who can and will.

CharlotteRose
by Charlotte on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:27 PM
U focus on yr needs and wants. Take it one day at a time listen w a clear head and everything will fall into place. Good luck and thx for the update!!!
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Krysden
by Platinum Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 7:05 PM
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Good Luck

Ruffnekwife87
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 7:24 PM
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I'm going to try it but I'm I have to sit and wait to see if he will change I can't make him change he has to want to


Quoting TommyAbby:

Sit and wait for what???

Are you going to try the counseling???


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