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So he showed up with paper work… need advice!!! ****UPDATE****

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After all that has happened in the last couple months (getting pregnant, moving across state to be with DH, finding out he was having an affair 2 days after I got here) he shows up this morning at 5am. He said we needed to talk so I let him in. He went straight to my room and sat on the bed. With me not feeling good (being pregnant) I laid down and listened to him…

He proved to me that he is not with the other girl anymore and has not seen her in over a week
and finally called it off with her 4 days ago. Then he handed me papers for marriage counseling he already signed us up for it and he has already seen the counselor for himself. He apologized for everything admitted all of his wrong doings to me and asked me for a second chance.

Should I do it? This is the first time DH and I have ever been through something like this. We have a lot of ups and downs in our relationship but never this. I just don't know if I can trust him to change or not. I'm so confused

Thank you all for your advice… this is a struggle for me because I do love him with all my heart. I'm going to take it slow and keep my main focuse on my children and my health. If things with DH and I go somewhere then so be if not then so be it. I guess now all I can do is sit and wait to see if he changes.
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by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 10:35 AM
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anotherandree
by Bronze Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 7:09 PM
You never know until you try

Quoting Ruffnekwife87:

That's my worry is that I will never trust him again. In a way I want it to work but I'm scared




Quoting lanceandhailey:

 I would never be able to trust him again.


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Beenhereforever
by Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 7:13 PM
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He wants to try? Fine. Let him price it to you. Make him hand over his phone.. Look through it. Get his mistresses info, call her right then and there and make her tell you it's over. Then go get tested.
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jesuschild06
by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 9:10 PM

I agree. Do you live seperately currently? If so, I would leave it that way for a while as well if it were me. But do what feels right to you. There is nothing wrong with giving a second chance (when abuse isnt involved), especially if he has set up the counseling and everything.


Quoting barrelracer1699:

If you want to save the marriage why not? If it was me, and he proved it, I would go for the couseling. He apparently wants it to happen since he set everything up!



4kings1queen
by Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 10:13 PM
He can only change if he wants to. And if he is taking these steps at least meet him halfway.
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Butterfly1108
by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 10:56 PM

It being the first time give him that chance. GL

oliver92
by on Mar. 27, 2013 at 11:18 PM

well i wouldnt be opening up my doors and welcoming him right back in, but yes counseling can help heal some of the hurt and it can strengthen your marriage and put you back in a better place, being seperated isnt easy and it sounds like he is trying, so I wouldnt see why you wouldnt want to try and repair the damage.

Due9
by Bronze Member on Mar. 27, 2013 at 11:54 PM

Yes. Give your husband another chance. A marriage is worth fighting for and especially since you will have a child together.

Nawal.Kramer
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 2:13 AM
I say you try it. Regardless of what ends up happening with you two, it will help you sort through your feelings.
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kbix82
by on Mar. 28, 2013 at 2:20 AM
I think its worth a shot
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justpeachy71904
by Silver Member on Mar. 28, 2013 at 6:47 AM
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I mean it's worth it imo. Then again only you k kw if you will be able to move past the cheating. You have to remember that once you agree to forgive and move fwd you can't bring it up and throw it in his face. You have to truly move on. It's hard. but possible. Mistakes happen. If he is serious then great but if not then I am sorry
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