My DH grew up with abuse in the home. He was abuesed, he watched his mother get abused, and was yelled at A LOT.
He is always saying I am yelling when I am not. For EXAMPLE: I call his name from the other end of the house and he comes out angry and says stop yelling at me. And I am like I am not yelling. Or another EXAMPLE: I talk louder because the TV is blaring or whatever and he says I am yelling - and I am not.
Another thing he does is he says I am freaking out when I am not as well. For EXAMPLE: If the kids spill something I will immediately clean it up and he is like stop freaking out, you're freaking out, etc.
It makes me angry when he says I am doing something I am not. To me yelling is in anger and you are screaming so loud you lose your voice. and Freaking out is breathing hard and going OMG OMG OMG with eye wide open. It gets really frustrating because I feel like I can't move or say anything because he thinks i am freaking out or yelling.
My question is - is there a way to get him to realize what yelling and freaking out is? I would really like some advice please.
on Mar. 29, 2013 at 9:19 AM