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See the thing is my boyfriend is watching porn should i be concerned

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me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 4 years now and we have a little boy who will be two in june on the tenth. i have cought him before watching porn and i told him how i felt about it cuz u see our son sleeps with us a lot of the time in bed and i am working on braking that habit but anyways me and my boyfriend had great sex last night and it has been a long time since that happend since our son was born and last time i cought him i told him i don't feel good enough for him if he watchs that crap because as it is we don't have much sex rite now a little more than be4 since our son started sleeping in his own bed i told my boyfriend it hurts my feelings that he watchs that and i asked him not to do it again cuz f how i feel but he did be4 he came to bed and i feel yet again that i may not be enough anymore cuz after having great sex after a long time he watched porn and i have already tried to talk to him about i really don't want to again cuz he already knows so what do you think i should do i am so upset with hm and i don't if it means that i'm not good enough anymore or  what i just need advice i guess on what you  think it means cuz i can't figure it out.

by on Apr. 5, 2013 at 5:31 AM
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raschwittay
by Member on Apr. 5, 2013 at 7:06 PM

I once found out my husband watches porn on his phone because I was doing a google search on there and typed the letter "B". Guess what came up. BIG TITTY SEX!! I was irate!! I am a very petite person. No big titties here. I was hurt and frustrated. So... I told him i was watching porn as well. He didnt like it. He never did it agian. Or I just never caught him again.

Men are pigs.

Missashley20
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 2:22 AM

not 4 years of barley any sex we use to have sex every sec of the day until our sn was born he will only be two we had a lot of sex be4 our son came just not as much now cuz of our almost two year old.

lovingmamma01
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 9:45 AM

Maybe you should try asking him what his fantasies are. Men are very visual beings which is why you may catch them looking at other women. Doesn't mean they want to sleep with them. Try surprising him one night. Buy some lingere that you feel comfortable in and be the one 'in charge' for the evening. Take the initiative. Men like women to do that some time. Try something you haven't done before like wear his neck tie then use it to bind his hands or something. Give him the night of his life and make him feel appreciated at other times of the day (like the way women crave) and perhaps he won't have a reason to watch porn anymore since his fantasy is right in front of him. Not saying your're the problem, but give him a reason to not want to watch porn.

Zazayam
by on Apr. 6, 2013 at 11:31 PM

IDK, mine watches porn all the time, it's never bothered me.

Try watching it with him, it might be hot.

IQuitCounting
by Bronze Member on Apr. 6, 2013 at 11:44 PM

I have no issues with porn.  We watch it together.  I go through phases where I want to and some where I don't.  Right now I prefer reading naughty novels aloud.

The only reason you should be concerned is if he's watching it instead of being with you when the opportunity is present.  If you don't want to, or aren't around, and he's horny... to me that's just a backup.  Chances are if he likes porn, he's not going to give it up unless you offer up an alternative.  Have you tried taking naught photos of yourself?  Taking photos together?  Taking video?  Do you read adult novels (because it's the brain's version of porn really)?  Read those aloud.  You both have a responsibility to each other to find what turns you on (within personal limits) and make the sex work.  That being said he does need to reciprocate.

And what is it about porn you don't like?  Have you tried watching any yourself?  There is actually a new wave of porn focused on women that is more plot and more intimate rather than just a bunch of sex.  Lost and Found, a New Sensations video is perfect if you're looking for more set up, foreplay, and some plot (at least way more than what most dudes watch).  There's also artsy stuff out there.  Zazel was the first I ever watched and it's artsy.  Maybe you just haven't seen anything you like yet :)  

http://goodforher.com/catalog/adultdvds/new_dvds

sandralippert
by on Apr. 10, 2013 at 8:17 AM

If you want to find out if your husband is watching porn, I can recommend you computer monitoring software. That software will allow you to secretely record everything that the user is doing on the computer like website visited, passwords, chats and so on. I alway have the monitoring software "Wolfeye Keylogger" installed: http://www.windows-keylogger.com/

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