well my husband and i had our 9th anniversary yesterday. im feeling like hes not wanting to b around our children and i, he seems to always wants to go do what he wants. he dose things without talking to me. the first thing that bothers me is that i had got into a car accident in town at the gas station and the ladys insurance gave me 3,200 dollars they totaled out my car and my husband took that money when i plained to buy a new car not sure what he did with that money. we got our taxes we plained to buy a new sectional instead he goes and buys a 4 wheeler without talking to me and just buys it. it seems like hes not been coming home after work and ill call and hes at the mechanic shop in town hes been going there for a while and stays till dark. ive talk to him about it because i told him i feel a lone and that he puts him self first . he says i need to find friends or a hobbie. it just really makes me mad that he does things without talking to me, like he does stuff behind my back. im a sahm and i take care of my kids all day i take my oldest to school for half a day and we wait for him to come home. i told him how i feel and all hes says is i need to find friends or get a hobbie but i just want us to be a family and spend time together. i dont mind him helping someone out or if he wants to buy himself something, but it seems he always gone and im still waiting for him to get me a car but i dont know what else to say to make him understand that i feel like the kids and i are put last .