my best friend called me tonight and asked if she could kidnap me for dinner, her treat. i talked to dh since it was my night to put dd to bed to make sure it was ok and he said it was fine but as soon as i hung up with my friend he started being a complete jerk. i'm a stay at home mom, which i love but my days consist of taking care of dd and doing college homework. i never go out "clubbing" or drinking because it's not my thing, in fact if i ever go out with friends dd is usually with me because dh is working so when the rare opportunity presents itself where i can go to dinner without dd i get excited, is that wrong? it was an hour and a half, i timed it because he was making me feel so horrible about it. i told him i'd take the next 2 nights of bedtime duty since i went out tonight but he's still being horrible. i feel guilty and i don't know why, i go out without dd maybe once a month, usually not even that often. i don't see the big deal. and when i came home i made sure to do all the dishes since my mom cooked for them but he made sure to question me about it saying things like "did YOU do the dishes?" "well i just wanted to make sure." making it sound like i always ditch my duties. i'm so freakin frustrated, i didn't do anything wrong right? or did i? he won't talk to me because he says i can't have a rational conversation. what did i do wrong?
*edit* i just wanted to add to one point of my original post. the only reason i did the dishes was because i told my MOM i would, since she cooked. in our house whoever doesn't cook does the dishes. but he should have helped me because he didn't cook either. i would not have done them if he told me to. i did them for her, not him. lol