As many know DH and I have been having marital issues to the point that he had an affair while we were living in different states… Well he decided to do marriage counseling and in the process we decided to live apart. He said that he was confused with his life and needed time to think about whether it not he wanted or we should be married anymore. This last week he has been coming and staying the night but I have always had one of the children sleeping in the room with us. Tonight I do not have any of my children in my room and I have a feeling he is going to try and have sex with me. I don't want to have sex with him. Do you think I am wrong for telling him… that until he can walk in and say we are married and we are for sure going to work things out I choose not to have sex with him? I feel that it is my right as a person to tell him no. That I am not comfortable doing this with him due to him not knowing if we are married, separated or on the verge of divorce. It's going to be hard because I am pregnant and horny as ever but I feel this is what's right for me and he needs to respect that?
Well, he came in saw no kids and tried to make a move. I told him how I felt and that I was not comfortable with it and he was depressed and said fine. Later while he was rubbing my belly (trying to feel the baby move) he asked me if I said no because I was not sexually attracted to him and I told him that had nothing to do with that. I told him that I was still very attracted to him and I still love him but until he figures out what he wants. He said he understood and he would respect my wishes. He said as long as he can run my belly and hold me while we sleep that's all he asks for so I said ok.
And a common thing that keeps being brought up is an STD check I did at my last OB/GYN appt about 2 weeks ago I told my doc what was going in because she looked at me funny when my sheet said not sexually active but married lol I told her everything and she did it right there in her office in front of me! She tested both of us said we are both clean but it still does not change my mind about wanting to have sex with him. We have not had sex since Jan 6th 2013 (the day we got pregnant)
on Apr. 20, 2013 at 11:22 PM