advise please but don't pass judgement or comment before reading fully :)
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i will start with back story then jump into where i need advise
my husband and i have been together for 6 yrs married for almost 4
we have a son who is 4 together he has a daughter from a previous non marriage relationship who is 22 and she has a daughter who is 2 so we are grandparents...
I have 3 children also from a previous non marriage relationship age 12,11,6...
(We neither have much to do with our x's by our choice but help each other with the others obligations as far as kids go between money, babysitter cleaning up act. i admit my husband does more with my kids then i do with his daughter but she loves out off state and i work to pay his back support (please don't judge just yet)
Okay... so I work full time 40+ hrs pw as a manager @Walmart in our town.
my husband has gone some time without work after being layer off he went through a bout if depression.
Okay so here's the first layer of meat to this story... again PLEASE DON'T JUDGE
We went through a VERY rough patch right after our son was born we were still married but we split up (my choice) because he was paying every penny he made to back child support for a child that was grown and the fact wa
s we were loosing our home and he wouldn't put his foot down in court and regardless of the outcome speak up foe self to the judge.
well we split up he moved in with a family member i stayed in the house for as long as i could before the sheriff locked the doors - but during our split i began to see someone else who was before then just a friend (honestly) and we became intimate and the very evening we did my estranged husband stopped by another sitter (my sister) told him where i was so he literaly stood by the window and listened to the entire thing...
So obviously that didn't last i was lonely hurt and had needs that weren't being met for months prior to our split because of the fighting.
So my husband and i got back together a short while later however its been 3 years and he says he will not go back to work because he can't trust me to be home alone he accuses me of cheating i have quit multiple jobs because he makes me feel like a fool
Most recently in fact last week, we had an intimate encounter and we both like it a bit rough so husband grabs my thighs as he climax's only a few days later when he points it out do i notice there's finger print bruises on my thighs...
Well wouldn't you know it he accuses me of cheating to top all this off i work 40+hrs my car broke down so we share car because he has the kids and he picks me up for my hour lunch and i call him during both my 15 minute breaks also wee had a family tragedy a month ago answer have been between home and hospital constantly) he swears i am cheating ay work once i made that point clear.
So then yeah there's just a bit more
today i ho to shower and brush my teeth (NORMAL DO EVERY DAY -DUH) he says 'oh got q hot date today huh'
sometimes i just want to tell him get lost ahole go file for divorce or i will because i don't know how much more i can take...
Oh also i am 100% sure he is faithful to me i just wish he knew i am too!!
SORRY FOR THE LONG STORY BUT IF YOUR WILLING TO NOT JUST AND GIVE ME SOME ADVISE PLEASE FOR!! :)