Dh got out of the army in Nov after serving 6yrs and 3 tours. The only lastingeffects he has are some night terrors and he can't stomach the smell of subway. Nothing else.
He went through all these test when getting out and none of this was suggested, he has no disability raiting.
This cost him a job that he instantly loved and wanted to make.a career. He was even starting to get set up with college for criminal justice.
Anyway he has already been told that with this diagnosis he qualifys with the va for disability.
I'm afraid this is effecting him mentaly more than he is letting on. He told my mom(of all people, they are not close) that he feels like a failure. I'm due in a week(well any day really) with our 3rd child. He is worried how we will stay afloat. I'm going back to work earlier than intended and that makes him feel bad too.
He hasn't really talked to me or been alone with me since he got the official news yesterday morning. He rode his bike around all day then met up with friends to play guitar(it was good for him) he invited them all to our house after. He was asleep when I left for work this morning.
I called him around 12:30 this morning to make sure he was awake(he will easily sleep till2) and he was pretty short with me. I texted him later and again just short.
I don't know how to be there for him with out either coming off as to pushy and worried, or like I am ignoring the situation.
I've told him I don't see him as a failure and that this will all work out like it always does. It didn't seem to be what he wanted to hear though. I'm just at a loss for how to help him!