My husband is verbally abusive and I really need some advice....BRUTAL HONEST ADVICE
This is my first time ever posting to a group, but I have no one to talk to and though maybe I could get some good, honest advice. Let me first just give a little background of the latest incident, which was this morning. I am a full time student with 5 children age 1-17. My husband works full-time and is the only source of income. I had two finals this week, a research paper due and an algebra test also. My 17 year old is having knee surgery on Tuesday as well. Until last night, I have averaged 3 hours of sleep per night due to studying for my finals, writing a paper, and studying for my algebra test. my husband is working nights for the mext week and a half, but usually works during the day. I sent him a test message lst night while he was at work and sent him a test message at 12:15 a.m. to see if he would get the kids ready and take them to school this morning, when he got home so I could get some much needed rest, before ihad totake my oldest son to the dr. at 10 a.m. Well, we have two full baths, and when he got home this morning, he decided to take a shower in our master bath, which, of course , woke me up. Then, before taking the kids, he came into our bedroom and very rudelt start saying my name in a very rude tone of voice a poking me , all just to ask where my keys were. i really felt like he could have easily gotten the keys out of my purse without waking me, but instead decided to just be hateful. I told hin where the keys were and he continued speaking to me very rudely, im=n front of my youngest daughter, so I simply aksed that he just please leave me alone. That infuriated him, but all I was trying to do was to keep from turning it into an argument.. Then, as he left the room, he snatched all of the covers off of me and threw them on the fkoor , then slammed the door.
When he returned home from taking the kids, I was crying, mostly out of pure exhaustion from lack of sleep over the past few days, and because I didnt unmderstand why he talked to me thatway and them snatched the covers off of me. When I asked him why he did that, he insisted that I was the one that had a bad attitude and then the name calling started. He called me a stupid B**CH, a PSYCHO B**CH,and threatened to leave and divorce me becuase I was crazy and that he deserved better. The words that stuck in my head though is that he calledthe mother of his son, a SCANDALOUS WHORE!! Like I said before, I am a full time student, he leaves for work before the kids get up and comes home afterthey are in bed. I take care of taking them to and from from school, doing all of the housework, laundry, grocery shopping bill paying, cooking, feeding and bathing, kids,,taking care of and mowing the yard. taking the kids to thier drs appts and all of their extracirriculur functions, plus going to school during the day and doing online classes at night( usually until 1 or 2 a.m. then getting uyp at 6 to start all over again.
When the gets home, he takes a shower, eats the supper that I always have ready for him, then lays down to play video games while I clean the kitchen, pick up the living room, finish laundry, and work on my homework.
Should I have to do all of this by myself? Should any husband call his wifethe names that calls me? I would leave him , but I have no financial support without him, and need the income so I can fnish school, but I just dont know how much longer I can hang on. PLEASE HELP!