My son (26) and his girlfriend have been living 8 hours apart for 2 years now. She has lyme disease and has been living with her parents getting treatments. Nothing seems to be helping and she hasn't been out of her house for over a year. She has good days and really bad days, home health comes to give her IV treatments, it's really serious. My son lives in a big city and is lonely. He only has guy friends and nobody to go out to dinner with, hang out with on the weekends, go to movies with, etc. He is ready to move on but he feels too guilty to break up with her and is really her only support person besides her parents. Her friends have all moved on with their lives and don't live where she is either. Now she has found out her grandmother has a terminal illness.
I feel so sorry for him, he cares about her but he isn't in love with her, yet he doesn't want to devastate her while she is sick, and he doesn't want to cheat on her. Any suggestions forf how to extricate himself and not look like a jerk? I just told him to be honest, he has to have a life too, and if they were meant to be together then when she gets well they can reconnect maybe. bit right now It sounds like even if she was well tomorrow, time and distance have already taken their toll as far as he is concerned.