See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
I love asking you ladies for suggestion because most of you either have seen or gone through the same situation...
So, my in-laws live in another country, and they have a house which they all share. (joint-family common in Asia). DH has five other siblings, when we got married we were in US and when my baby was six months old I went back home to visit. I never had any issues with my MIL before marriage, I barely spoke to her. Anyway so in 2007 I went to my home country...I went directly to their house and back then they were living in a apartment, two brothers, three sisters, one of which was divorced with two kids. So this is an apartment with eight people living there. My daughter got sick because of heat, I was funny and happy and sweet to them and I left after dinner because my grandfather house had more space. Anyway, next morning DH calls me (I travelled alone) he was in US, and started yelling at me of why I insulted his family by leaving early. I was mean to them, I was not friendly, I was immodestly dressed (I was fully clothed it was over 100 degrees there!). I was twenty years old then, I just had no idea what to do, so next day I went and stayed with my MIL and they had no bed for me. I slept on the floor, I was so uncomfortable. I barely slept...she acted bitchy the next day. My uncle came to see me and said he wants me to come visit him...I went with him, she told my BILs to not see me, they all stopped talking to me. I had no idea what to do, my father bought me a new ticket and my one month stay was cut short to a week. I never spoke to her after that. DH and I always fight about our MILs.
Anyway, 2013, fast forward, all of them are married except last one. Now DH wants me to go with him. He bought tickets for us, now I have a son too. She calls him or makes my SIL call DH to manipulate and say bad things about me and my mother....She hates me, I know that.
Now I will be in her house (thank god it's not that apartment). I have no idea how to act around her, I don't give a **** about them. I just don't want drama...how will I say "hi" to her? What if she doesn't respond? What if she ignores me in front of all her kids, who already blame me for everything... She acts same way with her other children's spouses.
I keep running the damn scenario in my head and I don't know how to proceed...