Ever since I came off my anti depressants last year I have been so fed up with everything. I've been married for 12 years and I'm growing and changing and he's just the same guy I married 12 year ago. Our anniversary was last month and it really sucked, the worst one so far. I had a friend watch the kids over night and we went out for dinner. I was so full after dinner we just came home. I just wanted quality time with him, I was on my period and wasn't in the mood. But that didn't stop him from wiping it out and whacking off. I'm so tired of our relationship only being about sex. He tells me if you just give me sex every other day I will do whatever you want. Which is a freaking lie, I put out two days in a row because he had the day off. He didn't do half the work I will have too the next two days trying to get everything back to together by Monday. I asked for him to do the chores for Mother's Day. He did a half ass job on dishes and didn't even sweep before he mopped the floor. I work full time too and he thinks he's superior to me. He told me last night it's my day off I should be able to rest and relax. He just lied around getting stoned all day. I asked him to play outside with the kids after dinner and no he just wanted to lay in my lap and take a nap at 6 pm. WTF I feel so used by him and I'm not happy. He know I'm not happy and thinks sex will solve everything. My kids aren't happy.
We are going to try marriage counseling but I'm just think it's another band aid holding us together for a few more months. I can't see myself living like this five years down the road. Thanks for reading any advice would be lovely.