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Does sex get better with age?

Posted by on May. 16, 2013 at 12:19 PM
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Sex Gets Better With Age! Take That 20-Somethings!

by Michele Zipp

kissing coupleI think we all have hangups, particularly when it comes to our bodies. We think our belly is too jiggly, our butt too squishy, boobs too floppy, whatever too whatever-y. And that affects our sex life. If we're not confident with our bodies, how can we be confident rolling around naked with another naked body? It's why some will only have sex with the lights off or with a shirt on. But interestingly, while our bodies may have been firmer, smaller, or some twisted form of what we thought was better back in our 20s, our sex lives get better as we age.

Burn that into your brains 20-somethings! Old people sex is hot! They don't call it your dirty 30s for nothing. And while we're at it, let's call the next decades the f*&king fabulous 40s and 50s. A new study gives us proof and explanation of these totally sexy and exciting details on why we shouldn't fear getting older.

Researchers in the US polled over 2,000 men and women and found that sex gets better with age, particularly for men, but also for the ladies. Men are most sexually confident between the ages of 50 and 69 and women reach that peak between 18 and 29. But that's considering the law of averages. It varies, of course, and depends on each person's unique situation. The factors of why sex gets more awesome with age are very telling.

Essentially we worry less as we get older. When we're young we're sometimes so consumed with how we look and keeping up with the other hot, young biddies who look flawless in push-up bras and mesh thongs. The older we get, the more we have a "take me as I am" kind of attitude. Yes, confidence. This goes for both men and women -- just 34 percent of men are worried about gray hair or any of those physical signs of aging, compared to 56 percent of women. Ladies, we need to relax. Men aren't so worried, therefore we shouldn't be either. Who's with me in embracing my gray hairs?! You will be paid in sexual rewards if you stop worrying. I swear.

The less self-conscious you are when it comes to sex, the more you will enjoy it. And I think I can speak for many women in saying that we get more confident as time ticks by. This also translates into how adventurous we get when it comes to sex. A survey of women over 45 revealed that 89 percent like sexual variety and having sex in many different positions and places, including the garden. Sexy! And perhaps best of all is that older women are more likely than younger women to reach orgasm, not just once but multiple times. Now that's something every 20-year-old can look forward to when pondering her 40s.

What also plays a role here is the ability to trust. When we're young, trust is sometimes hard to earn. With age comes knowledge and long-term relationships, so trust grows, allowing some to really let their guard down and let go, opening the door to the best sex ever. For many women, sex is just as much about the mind as it is about the body, particularly when it comes to reaching orgasm. Sensuality -- isn't that the best word ever? Older women have that. We also don't have as many hangups and we're not afraid to ask for what we want between the sheets. And if you don't already know or ask for what you want, it's time to find out. There are multiple orgasms waiting to be had.

What do you think? Does sex get better with age? Why do you think it does?

by on May. 16, 2013 at 12:19 PM
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by on May. 16, 2013 at 12:25 PM
I'm looking forward to it getting even better :) I'm in my 20's so at least when I'm 40 I have something to look forward to!!! Great article!
by Bronze Member on May. 16, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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I agree at 38 I am having better sex than in my 20s.
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by Ruby Member on May. 16, 2013 at 12:36 PM

I feel less confident now than I did in my teens/20s but that hasn't affected my sex life.  When I'm having sex I forget about the world and just enjoy the moment. 

by on May. 16, 2013 at 2:17 PM
It probably does get better for people who never have health problems intervene. But I'm not even 30 and already having the same "issues" my mother has. I used to think hers was due to having six kids, but I've never given birth. It makes my future "nightlife" with my SO seem very depressing.
by on May. 16, 2013 at 2:23 PM
I agree. Trust & self-confidence are definitely major factors. I'm still in my 20's but sex is a lot better now than it was, say, 5-6 years ago. I should add that my kids were very young at the time (baby & tot) so, that had something to do with it too.

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by Bella on May. 16, 2013 at 2:38 PM

 It keeps getting better for us : ) lol

by Bronze Member on May. 16, 2013 at 2:42 PM
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YES! I am 50. My husband and I have been married nearly 22 years. We are SO comfortable with each other that it is nearly impossible NOT to have great sex! You can tell each other anything that you want (and they are more than willing to do it) without wanting to hide your face under the covers from embarrassment. We have better sex, and more often than we ever did

by Alexandra on May. 16, 2013 at 3:20 PM

It's true!  All true!

I'm coming up for 50 this summer and I'm far sexier than I ever was in my 20's even though I was hotter.  Back then I had too many hang ups, now I have the confidence that comes with the take me or leave me attitude.

I'm far more adventurous and the trust that comes from a long term relationship is huge.

There is also the added benefit of not having kids interrupting and the reproductive issue has been taken off the table.  No more, I hope I'm not pregnant or I hope I am pregnant.

by on May. 16, 2013 at 3:22 PM

 Thanks for posting

by on May. 16, 2013 at 3:23 PM

Yes, Yes, Yes!   As you age you lose those inhibitions and just start to enjoy each other.  I'm 38 and DH is 41.   After 15 years of marriage the sex just gets better and better!!! 

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