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7 Things Married Couples Should Keep Doing Long After the Honeymoon Is Over

Posted by on May. 22, 2013 at 8:51 AM
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7 Things Married Couples Should Keep Doing Long After the Honeymoon Is Over

by Sasha Brown-Worsham

marriage All marriages inevitably go through some rough patches. It's just impossible to spend more than 50 years (God willing) with a person and never have any difficulties. But one of the most telling signs of rough waters ahead is when you start to give up things you used to love together.

Early on in dating, there is almost non-stop smooching, texting just to see how the other person is, and butterflies in the stomach. I know when my now husband and I started dating, I couldn't think about anything else but him, when I was going to see him again. Things have changed, though, 12 years later. I still adore him, but some things -- kissing, hand-holding, staying up all night talking -- have fallen by the wayside. They shouldn't, though. Here are 7 things married couples need to take from newly dating couples:

1.) Holding hands: Sometimes you should hold hands like you are in middle school. We all know you graduated to sex years ago, but remember a more innocent time when his hand around yours could make you squeal.

2.) Flirting with each other: For some reason, married couples always let this one go and they need to STOP that. Flirting is the way men and women communicate. So bat those eyelashes and brush his knee in a dark theater. Let it send a thrill up your spine.

3.) REALLY listening to his stories: We have heard each other's stories a million times and tend to get bored. Well don't. Really sit and listen to his tales. Hear about his day at work and rediscover the man you married.

4.) Trying new restaurants: The kids shouldn't stop your exploration. Visit news places, eat new foods, and go on adventures. You will be much happier.

5.) Buying little gifts/flowers: When you are dating, these things are part of the package, but they quickly fall away as you get deeper into marriage. Stop that! Make it happen again. Bring home flowers for no reason or small trinkets you saw that he might like.

6.) Dressing up: Change out of those sweatpants once a week and care about what he thinks about you again. I promise it will make many things happen all over again.

7.) Butterflies: Remember how he used to make you feel? Do your best to remember that and get that butterfly feeling again. It's just appreciation, pure and simple. Nothing feels better.

What have you stopped doing that you would like to do again?

by on May. 22, 2013 at 8:51 AM
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kalejames2010
by Annette on May. 22, 2013 at 12:42 PM
Trying new restaurants. We have a Mexican place right up the street from us that we LOVE. We have just stuck to it because it is good food and they are very family friendly.
big.city.mama
by Member on May. 22, 2013 at 1:06 PM
I so agree with the flirting part. I so love when my husband walks up behind me and grabs my butt lol
kurmom
by on May. 22, 2013 at 1:10 PM
I miss the "courting" stage! I tell DH all the time that just bc he has me now, doesn't mean he gets to stop courting me! I still need to be treated like a princess sometimes, and miss it when he would show off to me like he really cared about my opinion etc. I miss being taken on dates and being... chased after in a sense.
Hottmomma607
by Trica on May. 22, 2013 at 1:11 PM
I must say I have been doing good in keeping up with these things!
momofsunshine77
by on May. 22, 2013 at 1:58 PM

#4 exploration - we dont have a babysitter, and a lot of places I would not take kids to.  They dont behave very well.  LOL

Serenity7
by Platinum Member on May. 22, 2013 at 2:14 PM

 Thanks for posting

theresaphilly
by Bronze Member on May. 22, 2013 at 3:47 PM

It feels good that we are on the right track. My hubby is not a hand holder and never will be. I love the fact that he flirts with me and I fall in love with him every day.

melissaaytes
by Member on May. 22, 2013 at 4:25 PM

Me too :)  We do just about all those except going out to diff. restaurants seeing as we really cannot afford it right now, but we cook together does that count?  We have our days where we may not talk much or even touch each other but most of the time we are very close and our moments when we would like to strangle each other, doesn't everyone!!!  We have been best friends as well as bf/gf and husband/wife since the first day...8 years ago :)

Quoting big.city.mama:

I so agree with the flirting part. I so love when my husband walks up behind me and grabs my butt lol


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KarenT214
by Member on May. 22, 2013 at 4:25 PM

Well, we've only been married for 3.5 years and known each other for a little over 6. However, we do all of the above and I know we always will. His previous marriage had struggles from the lack of these things. His ex was always angry and upset with him and she ended up leaving him for another man. He says our marriage is way different and we are far more loving and affectionate with each other than they ever were. So I know he will continue to be responsive to my affection and knows how important these daily reminders are of our love. I'm very affectionate and always hold his hand and snuggle his arm when watching a movie or TV. As you get older, you realize how important all these little gestures of love are. They really do add up to a happy marriage.

LilTymomma
by Member on May. 22, 2013 at 4:30 PM

dressing up,..I mean after thre baby we dont have time for anything right now, but dressing up will be nice to do for the other

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