Until last night.
He was in the shower and his phone went off at 10PM, it was some chick asking if his "ankle biters and his bitch" were sleeping so he could sneak out. And I know it's wrong but while he was in the shower I continued to text this girl and I found out he's been cheating on me since before I was even pregnany with our baby. So he's been sneakimg around with this girl for almost 11 months. I brought it to his attention and he says he's only with me for he kids.. Which is stupid if you ask me. I don't see how someome can do this to another person. It's heart breaking. He slept at his dads house last night and was at work all day today. I let him home for 2 hours earlier so he could see the babies. What would any of you ladies do if your man did this to you? I want to file for divorce, but I honestly love him so much. I don't want to make amd quick decisions. Advice?!?!
I went and filed for divorce today. Hardest decision I've ever had to make. I packed up all his stuff and told him he needs to get it by tonight. He came and got it this morning AND brought the other woman. Needless to say I kicked him out until he could come back without her. He texted me earlier telling me to file for custody because he wants nothing to do with my son and daughter anymore, because raising my son and creating our daughter is "the biggest mistake he's ever made" besides being with me. And those were his exact words. And I have it all in texts because he's dumb and doesn't realize I can use it in court if he claims he never said that. I'm going Tuesday to file for full custody of the baby and child support. I will not have a man like that around for the sake of my children.
I want to thank everyone for all your kind words and support through my hard time. I don't have time to reply to all of your comments, but I'll try as much as I can. THANK YOU ALL!!!!
He came over last night and said he wanted to talk. He sat down and started "crying". He claims he left the other woman and he feels terrible for his actions. He says he didn't mean anything he said and he loves me and wants to be with me, blah, blah, blah... he "feels ashamed" for what he's done and he is willing to spend the rest of his life making it up to me. Well, i threw him his shoes and told him to get out. I let him know I already filed for divorce and i plan to file for custody of Maddelyn (our daughter). I can not and will not trust a word he says and he knows it. If he is willing to cheat on me at all, whether its once or multiple times he does not deserve a family with my children and I. And like ll of you mothers have said, I don't want my kids growing up thinking THIS is what love looks like. I might be willing to split custody and let him have supervised visits with the babies but that's it. I will not tolerate his "whores" being around MY babies.
I have collected all the paperwork I will need, and all the texts are saved on my phone. Court here we come! This is one of the toughest things I've ever had to go through and I can't even begin to describe how thankful I am for all of your helping hands n advice. I will try and keep updating as much s possible. THANK YOU!!