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Need help with my wedding plans

Posted by on Jun. 17, 2013 at 2:22 PM
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So my middle son has autism and hes doing very well but his classes are very expensive. I cannot justify spending a few grand on one day when that money can go a long way for his programs. I was thinking of having an intimate beach ceremony and then everyone back to our house for a bbq party/reception. We would have all the classic bbq food, and have lights and a tent out in the backyard. Basically like a relaxed party. ..does anyone have any ideas or pics thst i can do? My DF wants a big wedding so i have to presade him


or  i was thinkin of flying to vegas getting married then coming back home for an open house/reception for everyone else..he might go for tht bc alot of his family lives in vegas ..but i feel we would still be spending good money going to vegas as well so it kinda defeats the purpose idk, i still want a special day without the $$$$$$ involded... Thanks!!!




p.s my 3rd idea was that were closing on our new house in a couple of weeks, i thought we could invite everyone over to our place to host our first xmas party at the new house and i thought we could sneak surprise thrm with a wedding! Our new place has a beautiful fireplace that we could get married in front of and that way all our family would be there and theyd be dressed up and wed already have food and drinks there

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debwatson86
by on Jun. 17, 2013 at 2:30 PM
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I think your 3rd idea of planning the wedding in your new home is wonderful. I love the idea of big weddings, but the cost of one and how far that money could go for neccessities are off putting to me. If I were to remarry I would do something small and intimate. You can go to craft supply stores or dollar stores for decorations and have a wonderful day with family for a fraction of the cost. Good luck convincing your fiance of that, no matter what you agree on I'm sure it will be lovely.

MomToovey
by Marianne on Jun. 17, 2013 at 3:45 PM

 It's been 7 years since I planned a wedding, but we lived in CA at the time and looked into beach weddings. The cheapest one we found, for the ceremony alone (with no more than 10 people, including bride, groom & officiant), cost more than our actual ceremony, reception & honeymoon cost put together. VERY expensive.

I'd go with your third idea. My best friend got married in March of last year, and she and her husband were married on the front step by the front door (inside), and then the reception was in the backyard. It was crazy beautiful, very intimate, and very little money was spent.

BlessedAgain3
by Member on Jun. 17, 2013 at 10:22 PM

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vampporcupine
by on Jun. 17, 2013 at 10:35 PM

I spent $90 on mine and have been married for almost 20 years. If I wanted a "wedding" I would do an afternoonVictorian garden tea wedding. White table cloths in a garden with tea and crumpets and that would be it. 

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by Member on Jun. 18, 2013 at 12:43 PM

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furbabymum
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 12:44 PM
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 BBQ is messy food imo. Just think about that with your nice clothes.

Kimberlynn
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 12:50 PM
I like the third idea! You can go on Pintrest and get some fun/great ideas to plan it.
BlessedAgain3
by Member on Jun. 19, 2013 at 7:04 AM
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Verrine
by Bronze Member on Jun. 19, 2013 at 9:23 AM

I love #3.

I think that you are way underestimating the cost of a big party. No matter what you do, parties, and especially, weddings wind up costing more than projected. You don't want to add that debt on top of the stress of a new house to a new marriage.

ShortCakeScrap
by on Jun. 19, 2013 at 9:30 AM

I say go with the 3rd idea as well.

I just got married last month.  We didn't want to spend a lot of money due to remodeling the house and a baby on the way.  We got married on the deck overlooking the lake at his parents house.  The ceremony was small and intimate.  We still had a cake, food, etc.  We kept it simple but it turned out beautiful.

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