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Please advise if this is suspicious or normal behavior!

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Ok so DH & I have been 2gethr for nearly 14yrs. It started as a one night stand that kept happening so sex is the foundation of our relationship & hes always had a very high libido- so recently hes been avoiding sex (even tho he usually bitches that we need to do it more often!)
When i bring it up, he says its bcuz he feels fat & doesnt think its good for me bcuz of that etc.
However hes 41 & still in very good shape despite gaining 5-10lbs ovr the last couple yrs. This isnt a big deal to me @ all, hes still sexy & not even overweight...
In my experience, confirmed horndogs do not stop wanting sex cuz they "feel fat" over a few lbs! Which of course is to be expected with aging! The scales tell me im not exactly as light as i was when we met & i was a trim 21yr old ya know?!
So whats the deal?? Do men rly get insecure bout a few lbs to the point of avoiding sex with their wives?? It seems vry odd to me. Have any of u experienced ths with your men or should i be suspicious? TIA for any insight! :-*
by on Jun. 18, 2013 at 11:51 PM
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sandy201282
by on Jun. 20, 2013 at 1:13 PM

hes getting older..stuff slows down...amybe hes to embarassed to tell you that...guys feel they should always want sex, sometimes they just wanna go to bed and just sleep too.

VAnavymom
by on Jun. 20, 2013 at 1:37 PM

He could have something else going on - medically that he is embrassed about. Come straight out and call BS on his reasoning and tell him no matter what you love him and you are starting to feel neglected. Maybe that will get it out of him!

cox3
by Bronze Member on Jun. 23, 2013 at 12:00 PM
Have his hormones and testosterone checked. Don't jump to conclusions that he is cheating. Maybe stress. Are there other things he doesn't do anymore? Depressed? Good luck.
Diane1223
by Bronze Member on Jun. 30, 2013 at 7:37 PM
He could be insecure about his weight gain...
justpeachy71904
by Silver Member on Jun. 30, 2013 at 7:45 PM
Is he acting any different anywhere else?

Maybe start working out with him and let him know you support him.

If all else fails counseling
chasing
by on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:42 AM
Lol good point...to be fair, both of our phones have pattern codes & he doesnt know mine either.
Update: we finally had sex last night but he couldnt get ya kno all the way up til having me do something very specific. I think maybe hes watching alota porn without me & has this fantasy bs in his head. Dont get me wrong, ive done everything with him but he keeps takin it further & more detailed. Rly pissin me off


Quoting Valentina327:

Did you say this man LOCKS HIS PHONE?



Hello....and he's already had multiple one nighters that you know about?



So what does he need to do....actually bang someone in front of you?

chasing
by on Jul. 1, 2013 at 2:45 AM
BUMP!
PShorses2
by on Jul. 1, 2013 at 5:00 AM
I'd be suspicious
chasing
by on Jul. 1, 2013 at 5:10 AM
I am...since i cant seem to get any proof, where would you go from here? I have alteady talked to him btw, he says im bein ridiculous


Quoting PShorses2:

I'd be suspicious

PShorses2
by on Jul. 1, 2013 at 5:18 AM
I have no idea what I'd do here
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