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10 Classic Signs Your Man Might Be Cheating

Posted by on Jun. 21, 2013 at 10:24 AM
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10 Classic Signs Your Man Might Be Cheating

by Kiri Blakeley 

When it comes to your partner cheating, I don't believe there are any definitive clues. He could be working late, or he could be cheating late. He could be dressing up for you -- or his mistress. That's what makes this type of thing so confusing and hurtful. When you trust your spouse, you trust his explanations. But there are always certain things that get our antennae up. They don't seem to change much over the years, though with the advent of technology, those little hints now seem to involve a lot more cellphones and social media and a lot less lipstick on the collar (unless you're President Obama). Here are 10 classic signs your guy (or your woman) might be cheating.

1. He starts dressing better. According to divorce lawyer Marilyn Stowe, this is still a sign you should look out for. Did he suddenly morph from flannel and dirty boots to smart suits and shiny loafers? I'd add in wearing cologne all of a sudden, or changing the cologne he always wears to something new. Could be a sign the mistress gave him a bottle that she likes better.

2. Guarding the cellphone. This is one I've heard a lot in my girlfriend circles -- he suddenly starts sleeping with the cellphone by his bedside, or bringing it into the shower with him. He may turn it off when you're together and say he doesn't want to be disturbed while he's with you -- but he really doesn't want to risk her texting or calling while you're there. If he won't even let you touch his phone, sumpthin' up.

3. Password protecting everything. In this day and age, it's prudent to password protect your phone, but it can also be a sign if he suddenly starts doing it when he never cared before. Or he refuses to give you the password.

4. He takes out new credit cards in his name. According to Stowe, this is a sign that he's spending money on the new flame -- especially if the bills go to another address or he has them delivered online only.

5. He begins making hurtful remarks about you. Picking fights all of a sudden is a classic ploy -- this way if he ever gets caught, he can blame it on you and say you two were always fighting!

6. He begins to drop a female name into his conversations. I've heard this one before, that a guy having an affair will start bringing up a certain woman all of the time. Apparently it gives him an adrenaline rush to feel like he can talk about her and get away with it. I'd also add avoiding talking about a certain woman -- say he starts working on a project with a woman but he NEVER mentions her. That's weird if he's spending a lot of time with her.

7. Talking about how "ugly" or "horrible" a certain woman is. This is one I've seen a few times -- a guy tries to cover up his attraction to a certain woman by slagging her off every chance he gets.

8. He suggests separate holidays. According to Stowe, this is a clear sign he wants you out of town.

9. Doesn't want sex. He may not reject you, but he'll go along with your rejections where he may have previously fought them. Now it's like, "Sure, let's watch a movie instead. Noooo problem."

10. Social media. I'm simply amazed at how many men forget that their wife or girlfriend is on their Facebook and yet they will flirt or even "check in" with another woman also on his Facebook. Must think women are blind!

While these are fairly "classic" signs, I've also seen and experienced the complete opposite. I know one husband who was doing basically all of the above -- but after much investigating, his wife couldn't find any evidence of him having an affair. And I've been in a situation where a guy was doing none of the above -- but was.

Such is life. It's always a conundrum.

What signs have you seen that someone is cheating?

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MagicTemptation
by Christina on Jun. 21, 2013 at 11:30 AM
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I don't like articles like this. Many women will read this type of article and then start seeing behavior and thinking along those lines and throw things out of poportion, causing issues and fights when there wasn't a problem.

1. Dressing better. Maturity and better grooming habits are a positive thing.

2. Guarding cellphone. Could be making special plans to surprise you.

3. Could be work related, could be planning something positive, could be tired of his wife snoping when nothing is going on.

4. How dare he take out a new credit card! Most stores ask you as your checking out if you want to sign up for a credit card. If he wants to have a side dish, taking out a credit card makes for easy paper trail. Cash is best. lol

5. There are many things that can lead to one spouse saying mean things to the other. A good bit of the time, the things said are true and something to work on.

6. Really? If he talks about her, he is cheating. If he doesn't talk about her, he is cheating. Poor guy is screwed either way.

7. Maybe that chick really is that horrible.

8. Seperate holidays I could see a red flag unless he really hates his in-laws. I refuse to go to my in-laws so for holidays my S/O spends time with us before visiting his family.

9. Maybe he got tired of being rejected so much. What's the point in continuing to try? Maybe he is too tired or stressed or worn thin at the moment. 

10. Social media can cause drama. It seems like people find it easy to act immature behind a keyboard. But having an account doesn't mean someone is up to no good.

I like how at the very end, the last paragraph states that a person can do all of these things and not be cheating or a person can do none of these things and still cheat. So really, what was the point the author was trying to make? 


justpeachy71904
by Silver Member on Jun. 21, 2013 at 12:23 PM
This is like the 2nd time this has been posted here, Thi is a LOVE and marriage group not divorce :(

This might be the 2nd time this has been posted in this group specifically
Hottmomma607
by Trica on Jun. 21, 2013 at 10:24 PM

Sadly it happens Love AND Marriage! Meaning the good,bad&in between! Some women are face with the "and" part in their lives! This is a good place for it! Just b/c I'm in love and happy I can't assume everyone else is? kwim?

Quoting justpeachy71904:

This is like the 2nd time this has been posted here, Thi is a LOVE and marriage group not divorce :(

This might be the 2nd time this has been posted in this group specifically


Hottmomma607
by Trica on Jun. 21, 2013 at 10:25 PM

Magic I agree 100%!

I wonder what cheating spouses did before electronic devices? Did they meet on the street corner&flashed a signal at each other? LOL

Quoting MagicTemptation:

I don't like articles like this. Many women will read this type of article and then start seeing behavior and thinking along those lines and throw things out of poportion, causing issues and fights when there wasn't a problem.

1. Dressing better. Maturity and better grooming habits are a positive thing.

2. Guarding cellphone. Could be making special plans to surprise you.

3. Could be work related, could be planning something positive, could be tired of his wife snoping when nothing is going on.

4. How dare he take out a new credit card! Most stores ask you as your checking out if you want to sign up for a credit card. If he wants to have a side dish, taking out a credit card makes for easy paper trail. Cash is best. lol

5. There are many things that can lead to one spouse saying mean things to the other. A good bit of the time, the things said are true and something to work on.

6. Really? If he talks about her, he is cheating. If he doesn't talk about her, he is cheating. Poor guy is screwed either way.

7. Maybe that chick really is that horrible.

8. Seperate holidays I could see a red flag unless he really hates his in-laws. I refuse to go to my in-laws so for holidays my S/O spends time with us before visiting his family.

9. Maybe he got tired of being rejected so much. What's the point in continuing to try? Maybe he is too tired or stressed or worn thin at the moment. 

10. Social media can cause drama. It seems like people find it easy to act immature behind a keyboard. But having an account doesn't mean someone is up to no good.

I like how at the very end, the last paragraph states that a person can do all of these things and not be cheating or a person can do none of these things and still cheat. So really, what was the point the author was trying to make? 



MomToovey
by Marianne on Jun. 21, 2013 at 11:46 PM

 I've never seen signs that someone was cheating.

la_bella_vita
by Bella on Jun. 22, 2013 at 1:21 AM
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This isn't something I worry about.
momto3boys85
by on Jun. 22, 2013 at 6:26 AM

Agreed! My husband password protects all our phones and his ipad, he's not having an affair. he just got tired of our kids getting onto our stuff and messing with our electronic devices. 

Quoting MagicTemptation:

I don't like articles like this. Many women will read this type of article and then start seeing behavior and thinking along those lines and throw things out of poportion, causing issues and fights when there wasn't a problem.

1. Dressing better. Maturity and better grooming habits are a positive thing.

2. Guarding cellphone. Could be making special plans to surprise you.

3. Could be work related, could be planning something positive, could be tired of his wife snoping when nothing is going on.

4. How dare he take out a new credit card! Most stores ask you as your checking out if you want to sign up for a credit card. If he wants to have a side dish, taking out a credit card makes for easy paper trail. Cash is best. lol

5. There are many things that can lead to one spouse saying mean things to the other. A good bit of the time, the things said are true and something to work on.

6. Really? If he talks about her, he is cheating. If he doesn't talk about her, he is cheating. Poor guy is screwed either way.

7. Maybe that chick really is that horrible.

8. Seperate holidays I could see a red flag unless he really hates his in-laws. I refuse to go to my in-laws so for holidays my S/O spends time with us before visiting his family.

9. Maybe he got tired of being rejected so much. What's the point in continuing to try? Maybe he is too tired or stressed or worn thin at the moment. 

10. Social media can cause drama. It seems like people find it easy to act immature behind a keyboard. But having an account doesn't mean someone is up to no good.

I like how at the very end, the last paragraph states that a person can do all of these things and not be cheating or a person can do none of these things and still cheat. So really, what was the point the author was trying to make? 



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6-is-it
by on Jun. 22, 2013 at 10:36 AM
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A classic sign of cheating is when your mate constantly blames you for cheating; GUILT.

Hottmomma607
by Trica on Jun. 23, 2013 at 12:57 PM
((Hugs))

Quoting MomToovey:

 I've never seen signs that someone was cheating.

Monsita
by Silver Member on Jun. 23, 2013 at 5:09 PM

...plain simple lies!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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