I really need advice, please.
My husband works with this woman named Amanda. She was always nice to me...even throwing us a baby shower at their work. Well she was always at work related events we would go to, ie Disney On Ice. My Dh would start to go to happy hours more and she would be there. After I had my daugther 9 weeks ago, my husband took 4 weeks off. He got a text from her saying that work was not the same without him and his jokes. Then last week he said he wanted to go to 3 things that weekend. I said hell no because we need him here and he is a family man with 2 kids and a wife. He doesn't need to be going out like he is 21. He went to 2 things. Last Friday he left at 6:00 p.m. and didn't get home until 12:30 a.m. WTF? Guess who was there? Amanda. Ok cut to last Wednesday night. My DH gets home from work and goes to the bathroom. His cell phone made a noise that he got a text. I looked at who it was from and it said JONES. That's Amanda's last name. Everyone else in his address book is first name. Ok but I didn't open it. At the dinner table he opens it and texts back. After dinner and put my daughter down for the night, something told me to look at the text. He was in the bedroom so he didn't know what I was doing. Well this is what it said, "I WANNA DRIVE YOU CRAZY BABY, MOAN N GRAB YOU SO FREAKIN CRAZY. I MAKE YOU TAPOUT!!!" Oh hell no! I burst into our bedroom and asked what this shit was all about and he was all nervous. He denied it and all. I said, "I'm calling the bitch". So I did and she said it was supposed to be for her boyfriend and it was an accident. Bullshit! I finally got it out of him that it started that day(yah right) and they were sitting next to each other at a meeting and she started to soft touch his leg! Then she texted him 3 times and the only text he replied to was the one I saw him do at the dinner table (yah right again). He said the reason why he texted back is because I am not kissing and hugging him at home and he liked getting that attention. He swears he never cheated (sex). I don't know what to do or what to believe. Should I leave him over this? I just had a baby 10 weeks ago and a 6 year old. I'm so confused and betrayed. I'm not in a good frame of mind. I can't stand to even look at him. I'm mourning the death of our marriage I feel. Any advise is much appreciated. Thank you.
Here is the email I just sent her:
Hopefully this will be my last email to you. I just want to ask of you to leave my husband alone for good. I don't want you to talk to him, sit next to him in meetings or anywhere else, don't have lunch with him or near him, don't even think about him. He has been married to me for 7 years and we have known each other for 17 years. He is taken and more importantly, he is a father of two wonderful daughters. You have your man, stay away from mine! Yes, it takes two and believe me he is getting his share over here, but you are to blame too. I am very disappointed in you as a woman and mom for you to have done this to another woman. You hugged me and were nice to my face. Why back stab me? What did I ever do to you? What kind of person does that? You are heartless and a homewrecker! I'm still just shocked at how low you will go. I believe in Karma and you will get yours someday....I won't have to do anything, which frees my mind and conscience. I would like to thank you for one thing. I am now not going to be naive anymore with females. You have taught me to trust no one. Even ugly girls such as yourself can get their homewrecking paws on my husband. I never thought in a million years my husband would be lead into your deceptive web of flirting, but he did. And now I know. But we will get through this and we will be stronger for this incident that happened. I have someone that you work with that is going to watch you like a hawk and tell me if you so much as look in my husband's direction so please be careful how you handle yourself. Be professional in your work place and stay the fuck away from my husband and anyone else's husband. I have also let some of the other wives know what happened and to watch out for you and your hand touching of legs under tables. No man is safe with you in a 10 mile radius.
That is all for now. Good luck with Carlos...he's a lucky man to have such a two timing slut as yourself.