I've been married 7 years. We have 4 kids 12, 10, 10, and 5. We're a joined family he had two from a previous marriage, I had one now we have an ours. His first marriage ended due to him being cheated on, badly like she was messing around with several different men. So I completely understand the insurcurties he has. He works off shore, he's at home for two weeks and gone for two weeks. When he is gone it can be very overwhelming with 4 kids ESP in summer I only work as a fill in hygienist, so I have 4 kids with me all the time. Don't get me wrong I love and adore my kids but it can get stressful fast each child is in some type of activity some more than one activity. So here is my issue: my husband is at work right now, my in laws plan a trip each summer with the kids. But since they have 3 grand girls and 3 grand boys they take the girls on one trip and the boys on another trip. My boys are on their trip now so it's just the girls at home. My parents live 45 mins away and with the kids crazy schelude it's hard for my parents to spend time with them. The boys left Thursday so my girls stayed there that night. I seen them Friday but they stayed Friday also. I have animals to feed so I was home. Saturday they stayed with their aunt I seen them this morning at church. We made plans to stay at my moms myself included but I had to come home because my door some how was open and I have a puppy outside that loves to chew things up. We live in the country so I don't have close neighbors the closest one wont come in my yard cause my other dog will attack. So this is the 4th night I've been by myself. And I'm really enjoying my alone time. I still see my kids everyday except the boys, but my husband is throwing a fit. He says its not normal for me not to have the kids so many nights in a row. And that is true. It's not that I don't want them their just spending time with my parents. But he thinks this will become a habit. I can understand his trust issues but we've been together 10 years 7 of those married surely by now he's gotten over that trust thing. For one I'm not his ex I've never given Him a reason not to trust me. He's just fussing about it not being normal it's not you to get rid of the kids so much. What are you doing blah blah blah. I've been able to clean go through toy boxes and watch what I want to watch on tv. I know 4 nights is a long stretch but is it so wrong of me to enjoy a break. Just being alone. I've not even went out with my girlfriends, none have been here its just me. Why am I not allowed a break?????
on Jun. 23, 2013 at 8:54 PM