I tell my husband I need a break, just to be by myself maybe a day spa. He tells me he can go with. ummm defeats the purpose of me going and relaxing. I cant relax if I dont think my son is safe. I let him go with my grandparents to Hollywood Casino to just have a man night. He drank, gambled had a good time. He wants to go again which is fine by me as long as gambling doesnt become a habit. He then tells me that he could use a massage because he stays so sore all the time....ummmmmmm really? I know how back pain feels. I have cronic backpain, I get intense muscle spasms almost daily. I am on Flexeril and Tramadol for my back issues. I dont see why I couldn't get a day to just relax by myself. I dont ever ask for much. I give him backmassages and all this other stuff so he can come home and play his computer war games, or just chill on the sofa. Why is it so wrong for me to have a day just to myself? Go to a spa and chill? Man a day I didnt realize asking for one day off in over a year was such a bad thing.