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SERIOUSLY!!!

Posted by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 1:56 PM
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I tell my husband I need a break, just to be by myself maybe a day spa. He tells me he can go with. ummm defeats the purpose of me going and relaxing. I cant relax if I dont think my son is safe. I let him go with my grandparents to Hollywood Casino to just have a man night. He drank, gambled had a good time. He wants to go again which is fine by me as long as gambling doesnt become a habit. He then tells me that he could use a massage because he stays so sore all the time....ummmmmmm really? I know how back pain feels. I have cronic backpain, I get intense muscle spasms almost daily. I am on Flexeril and Tramadol for my back issues. I dont see why I couldn't get a day to just relax by myself. I dont ever ask for much. I give him backmassages and all this other stuff so he can come home and play his computer war games, or just chill on the sofa. Why is it so wrong for me to have a day just to myself? Go to a spa and chill? Man a day I didnt realize asking for one day off in over a year was such a bad thing.

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Metteba
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:06 PM
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I like Tramadol.

Why don't you just sneak away from him???? I'm positive your family or friend can babysit for the day.

jojo_star
by Gold Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:08 PM
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It isn't. Sit down and calmly explain to him just what a YOU day really means, and what you want and need. 

CorpCityGrl
by Bronze Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:10 PM
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It's not wrong.  You have given him his own days and you deserve your own as well.  Sit him down and calmly explain to him what the day for you really is about.  You need this so I hope he understands.

JRSMOM0621
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 2:23 PM

Tramadol definately helps.

Quoting Metteba:

I like Tramadol.

Why don't you just sneak away from him???? I'm positive your family or friend can babysit for the day.


furbabymum
by Gold Member on Jul. 2, 2013 at 3:24 PM

 So tell him. I tell my DH that he has the kids because I'm doing x, y, z. He says ok and that's that. Only thing I've said recently is I wanted to go see Heat with my mom and he said he was interested in seeing that. So I decided to see it with him instead.

TommyAbby
by Melissa on Jul. 2, 2013 at 5:43 PM
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Um.. don't ask him. Tell him. I am doing a spa day on friday so you have the kids. If he wants to have a massage, tell him he can book his own appointment on another day. 

I couldn't fathom not having my me time. I do 1 hr facials every 2 weeks at the local cosmetology school. $20 and an hour later, I feel renewed and relaxed. Best $20 spent and saves my sanity. 


Anniewhereugo
by on Jul. 2, 2013 at 6:47 PM
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Is he just dense or is he jealous?

Krysden
by Platinum Member on Jul. 3, 2013 at 12:41 AM

He told you he could go with?  Was it a suggestion or was it a statement "I'm going too"     You just need to let him know that you NEED to do this alone for YOU.   You are the only one that can make him understand.  Good Luck.

MrsKaufold1990
by on Jul. 3, 2013 at 12:43 AM
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Dont tell him.

You are his wife, not his friend.

And welcome to parenthood???

I dont ever get a "me day"

When you are a parent you dont get a day off, nor do you deserve one.
KendallsMommee
by on Jul. 3, 2013 at 12:46 AM
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That's sad.

Every sentence. Wow.


Quoting MrsKaufold1990:

Dont tell him.



You are his wife, not his friend.



And welcome to parenthood???



I dont ever get a "me day"



When you are a parent you dont get a day off, nor do you deserve one.
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