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I snooped and found this!..updates1,2,and 3

Posted by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:01 AM
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OK so I went through my husbands cell the other day, mainly emails and found some sites that he had been on. They were all porn sites. NO shocker there, but what did shock me is that he is not looking at the free porn sites, he is looking at the ones you have to pay for! Basically cam models. IM PISSSED!!! I know I was wrong for snooping but what is wrong with the free sites? Why does he have  to go to the paid sites? Between the two sites he has spent over 200 dollars in the last month! That is money that could go to the boys, gas in the car, or groceries for the house!!!!

I want to confront him with it but I dont know how to with out letting him know I was snooping.  THe card that he used is prepaid so there is no statement. Im just lost and hurt. Im not a bad looking person and i just dont know why he needs to see other women naked.

 

UPDATE!!!!

I  confronted him yesterday via text message and he acted like it was no big deal!!!!! I was even more pissed. He said that I should have never went through his phone because I DONT ALLOW him to go through mine. He never trys to go through mine, nor does he ask to. If he did I would gladly hand it over to him!!!  So when he got home i handed him my phone so that he could go through it but he didnt want to and he sat on the couch and changed everything i suppose on his phone and said, "there its all taken care of! "

Im so over this!!!!

UPDATE# 2

Ok so I thought that the other day when I confronted him about what I had found and he said that it was all taken care of that he had changed passwords and everything on his phone. I was wrong! I went through emails and found yet ANOTHER site!!!  Of course I had to check it out since the email said nothing about him adding funds I was thinking that maybe it was an actual free site that you had to sign up for. Nope its a paid site, he just hasnt added funds to it YET! I tried going through the site under his name last night and you cant do ANYTHING untill funds are added. I will definately be keeping my eye out on this site to see if he adds funds!!!

Update 3 I looked through his phone once again and there was ANOTHER site where he paid to see some woman get naked!!! He only spent 5 dollars for 8 minutes but its the principal that annoys and hurts me. The other day he wouldn't buy a 7 dollar book for our son that he uses in therapy but it was ok that very day to buy a 20 dollar video game and then spend 5 dollars on that internet whore last night! So this morning, I took DHs debit card and went and bought the book for DS and also treated DS and myself to lunch!!! I thinks that's fair!
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coupon_ash_back
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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That would be hurtful IMO. Ladies here never think so for some odd reason.
indymom72
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:03 AM
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I would confront my husband immediately.  Snooping or not, he should not be spending that kind of money, on that kind of bullshit.  I would nip that right now. 

ETA..I'm fine with porn, it's the money spent that would piss me off.

RheaF
by Silver Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:04 AM
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 Ask him where the money went.

If the Porn bothers you, have a serious talk with him about it. Don't buy into the lie that "every Man does it", or they need it. They don't. You, as his wife, have every right to speak up and let him know how you feel.

EmilysMom2010
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:06 AM
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Whoa.
I caught my ex on one of those. I charged his card as much as I could on the website. (Like $250) Told him to have fun with women he has to pay to like him and broke up with him.
That's probably not how you should handle this. But I would flip the fuck out.
NiCo86
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:07 AM
this!

Quoting indymom72:

I would confront my husband immediately.  Snooping or not, he should not be spending that kind of money, on that kind of bullshit.  I would nip that right now. 


ETA..I'm fine with porn, it's the money spent that would piss me off.

sallymaggie
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:08 AM
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Confront him! I would be pissed to if I found out my DH had spent that kind of money on PORN! 

furbabymum
by Gold Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:09 AM

 First, it's not about you and how you look.

Second, I'd have a hissy fit. He can look at all the free tits he wants but he's not paying for it!

soon2bmmy
by on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:10 AM
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The porn doesnt bother me, because I look at porn too, but its free porn and it gets me off just fine! This morning he was bitching about how short his check was goingto be this week because of the holiday last week and I wanted to say somethign then but I didnt want to start a fight in front of my son.

Dee0886
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:10 AM
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Why do people think it's wrong to go through their spouses phone? I go through my dh's phone all the time and he's more than welcome to look at mine. There shouldn't be "privacy" when it comes to the technology a spouse has. And if dh ever got mad at me for looking at his phone then I'd think something was up.

I guess just tell him you had a suspicion something was up so you looked through the phone to see if you had anything to worry about, and that's what you found. 

frzmamaof4
by Bronze Member on Jul. 12, 2013 at 11:11 AM


Quoting indymom72:

I would confront my husband immediately.  Snooping or not, he should not be spending that kind of money, on that kind of bullshit.  I would nip that right now. 


ETA..I'm fine with porn, it's the money spent that would piss me off.

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