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'The Mistress Contract' Could Be the Next '50 Shades of Grey' -- But Wives Won’t Be Happy

Posted by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:11 AM
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'The Mistress Contract' Could Be the Next '50 Shades of Grey' -- But Wives Won’t Be Happy

by Ericka SĂłuter

mistress contractIf Fifty Shades of Grey has taught us anything, it's that we love naughty sex. Of course that doesn't always have to involve whips, chains, and nipple clamps. In fact, the book being touted as big or even bigger than the saga of Christian and Ana is The Mistress Contract, a memoir detailing a real contract between a married man and the other woman. It basically lays out everything she will get from him financially in return for being his dedicated booty call. Crazy? Well, it may not be as bad or as scandalous as you may think.

The one-page letter laid out how their relationship would work. In exchange for mistress services and becoming his "sexual property," he would, in turn, compensate her with "tasteful accommodations to her liking" and also foot the bill for their outings. On top of that, the woman wrote she would perform "all sexual acts as requested, with suspension of historical, emotional, psychological disclaimers."

I know what you are thinking -- this is basically a contract for prostitution. But I beg to differ. Why isn't it good, practical business sense? These kinds of unspoken deals happen all the time in relationships. You get serious with a guy and you expect him to buy you things, take care of you. Certainly many mistresses do too. So if you are going to debase yourself and be with a married man, why not have a little insurance?

I'm not saying this is right morally. Obviously cheating on your wife or having sex with a man you know is married rarely has a happy ending for anyone involved. But somehow this presence of this contract has helped give their arrangement longevity. Perhaps it was having such a clear set of rules and expectations set in place that kept them so willing to be together. She is now 88 and he is 93 and they are still in contact over 30 years after their affair began. It's crazy to think that most marriages don't even make it to year 5 and here they are still going strong. Bet Christian and Ana can't top that!

What do you think of the mistress contract?

by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:11 AM
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lilbit53009
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:14 AM
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great...a blue print for the homewreckers lol

furbabymum
by Gold Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:24 AM
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 My DH couldn't afford a mistress so I'm not woried. Very interesting though.

AJ-47
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 10:25 AM
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More trash. Yay.
CorpCityGrl
by Bronze Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 12:30 PM

I had heard of it but haven't read it and after reading reviews, I don't really see it be all that appealling.  Some hail the relationship and the contract as novel, but I can see it being taken the wrong way.  In some sense, the contract and the glorification of it sends a signal to people that it's okay to do that and in many ways it makes you more enlightened.  Being a married woman, I find it a bit insulting to be truthful with you - the whole idea of a contract is a blatant disregard and disrespect of the man's relationship with his SO.

ReadWriteLuv
by Casey on Jul. 16, 2013 at 12:59 PM
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My husband's mistress would have to be happy living in a dilapidated trailer park, with decor by Spencers in the mall, and with a diet of hot pockets and Boones Farm wine.

Quoting furbabymum:

 My DH couldn't afford a mistress so I'm not woried. Very interesting though.

newwifenmom
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 1:33 PM

I dont know what to think about this.

earthangel1967
by YVONNE on Jul. 16, 2013 at 2:27 PM
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 Admittedly I didn't even  read this entire article, but  can share my opinion enough to say ANYTHING to do with cheating makes me feel sick to my stomach.

 YVONNE

MomToovey
by Marianne on Jul. 16, 2013 at 4:12 PM
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 Umm...I dislike the idea of reading about how a married man can make a sexual relationship with a woman who isn't his wife work. I don't see how this will be helpful to anyone other than men and women who are seeking an affair.

newstepmom61811
by on Jul. 16, 2013 at 4:40 PM

I think...trash...50 Shades was trash..."they're still in contact after 30 years"...and still with nothing but an affair to show...

No thank you...it can be dressed up in all the excuses and explanations but an affair is just an affair...the contract makes it even lower...payment for sex...prostitution...I can put lipstick on a pig...just a pig with lipstick...a contract, longevity...it doesn't matter...payment for sex is prostitution...she just found her regular gigolo...

30 years the kept prositute should be the title...

rockinmomto2
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2013 at 6:14 PM

I think it's wrong to have a mistress. I can't understand why someone would be married and want something outside of it. Or, I guess I can, but it's unfair. But that's life!

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