Think about the long term affect that it will have on you and others around you.
My favorite quote that explains all those FB post about how great everyone's DH's are;
"A "PERFECT MARRIAGE" is just two imperfect people who refuse to give up on each other!"
I've been married for 15 years, & there has been times when I couldn't stand my DH, even took a year in the beginning & moved out, but that year when I thought I would move on to bigger better things, find a man who woul treat me right...I got slapped in the face. I learned it wasn't just him that wax the problem. It wax the majority my fault. He didn't do things for me, or treat me right because I wouldn't let him. Good luck, just do the right thing, cheating is not right, put the shoe on the other foot.
Quoting julariel:
2 divorces doesn't make me a bad person and neither does having doubts and regrets ... one ended because he hit me and went through and destroyed everything in our home, the 2 nd because he beat my 2 yr old daughter and showed no remorse and wouldnt get help, the 3 rd one died of a heart attack, u really shouldn't judge what u don't understand . I have been through counseling and is it really so bad to want to feel beautiful and attractive again ? Im trying to work on my marriage and tell him what i need it just doesn't seem to work. I talked to the other guy this morning and we discussed talking and friendship not cheating. Everyone needs somebody to talk to that understands them
If you feel this way about your husband than why stay? Idk if it's jst me, but it seems as if your husband pretended to be you, then you jst got the number and thats it?! Are you 2 jst going to act like that didnt happen? NEITHER of you dont think this is an issue ASIDE from the fact that you are tempted to call another man in your "dispair" when it should be your husband you turn too? I think it's time to sit down and be the grown ups you are either fix this or end this... bc it's only going to get worse.. AND the other man is married? No no... not good.
If you are that unhappy, get a divorce. Don't cheat.
if you think you could have a happy marriage then try for that.
dont be a cheater.
and No, not everyone does this. I like to be noticed and of course getting attention feels good, but my husband makes me feel good too. He compliments me, we talk a lot, we work on problems and we have great intimacy.
So sad. You need to leave that issue alone and figure out your life. What you are doing isn't going to help you look in the mirror and like the reflection, it will only make you feel worse about yourself. What if the shoe was on the other foot.
Also, why not dedicate this amount of energy on your HUSBAND? You are not a passenger in your life, this didn't just happen TO you, you made choices that put you where you are. Now woman up and do what is honorable and act like a married woman. Don't put yourself in a position that is unhonorable to you (and all wives out there) and also to the man you committed yourself to. You have already crossed over boundries that shouldn't have been, but it is not too late to do the right thing from here on out.
You need to work on you self esteem and your marriage, not who will climb into bed with a married woman. Good luck sister. I wish you the very best and that your marriage gets the attention it needs so you can find hapiness where you are at.
Have you ever....?
- newstepmom61811
on Aug. 2, 2013 at 10:04 PM