"M" : hey lets go get drunk and pick up some women
dh: um dude im married
M: So she wont be able to smell the slobber all over you
Dh: Shut up your being an idiot
(thats the convo he said he and M had on their way home from work).
He told me this while we were eating dinner. Then out of no where he complains that I dont let him cum in me. We use NFP but to minimize the chances of pregnancy even more we pull out also. He also commented on the fact that I dont go down on him and let him finish in my mouth as much anymore (i dont like to let him finish that way but do time to time but ALWAYS give him oral at some point during our play time).
He says whats the point in tracking everything if I cant cum in you. I said because we really shouldnt allow that much possibility for pregnancy right now. We have two kids already. Id like to have them potty trained, get out of some debt and try to buy a house before we try for another or allow the possibility of another baby.
He says its all about me. I complain because Im not ready for a baby. My Endocrinologist (sp?) said wait a year (from feb) and my radioligist said wait at least 3-6 months before trying.
Its not that I dont want him to finish in me but I want to be able to get to where we want in life. Be able to be more financially stable before we have another child. Not to mention since I had the radiation recently itcould cause birth defects if we dont wait 3-6 months. He just thinks "once in a while wont hurt"... Yeah ok until I end up pregnant .... :( now we are arguing and I dont want to be near him. I just feel like crying. I feel more insecure now that he told me what his friend said....
End vent :/
We sat down and talked. He said he told me the convo as a way to bring up the topic. And he wanted me to know that even though he was dissatisfied with our current arrangement, he refused to go with his friend because loves me.
He expressed his issues with NFP and I as a pp said actually shut up and listened. He has valid points as far as finishing "the right way". However, I expressed my concerns as we are still early on in NFP and I want to be sure I am tracking properly. I explained it wont be to much longer until he can cum in me, just not yet.
We also discussed having more children. He would like to try soon. I told him that is unrealistic and again explained my reasoning (debt, potty training, buying a house). We have decided to wait the year my dr suggested and see where we are at that point and if we are more financially suited to have another, we will.